How Can I Find Out if He is Bisexual?

How can I “catch” him?

I’ve run across a number of websites that outline ways wives can “catch” their husbands in some type of activity that proves he’s bisexual or gay, usually through his computer history: websites he visits, movies he watches, even read his e-mail.

My God!  What kind of a marriage is this?

Why not forget all the duplicity and secret agent stuff and just ask him?

Don’t be defensive or accusatory, and don’t  blurt out the question one night at the dinner table.  Try a far more thoughtful approach.  If you have reason to believe your husband is bisexual, you must, to some extent, already be prepared to learn that he is; you can therefore  plan and control the atmosphere that will be created when you ask this question.

He probably doesn’t know you’ve been thinking about this for a long time.  He doesn’t know you have reason to suspect.  He isn’t expecting you to question him on this most taboo of subjects.  So lay some mental groundwork in your own mind before you stage the question; in other words be mentally prepared to orchestrate a civil, productive discussion.  Be prepared, for now anyway, to set your emotions aside so that if you learn your marriage is going to somehow be redefined, your starting place will be rational.  You can go out and kick the garbage can all over the back yard in anger at some later date. Continue reading