There is a reason the curve of the human ass looks so sensually provocative, male or female, and it has much to do with a certain mysterious and well hidden erogenous zone.  More and more enlightened heterosexual males are lifting their hips for wives or girlfriends who have gotten past all the negative psychology, and have learned how to add a touch of spice and variety to the intimacy they share with their partners.  Plus growing numbers of women are discovering the potentially enormous pleasure of being penetrated from behind.  We are discovering the sexually sensitive and pleasurable nerve endings found in and around the anus.

More women than not say they don’t enjoy it, but I suspect this is because of an inexperienced lover.  We hear the stories . . . wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am . . .  maybe these guys don’t know you can’t do that back there.  Here’s what the women who do enjoy anal sex say about it:

Gets Me Off

I enjoy anal sex to a large degree. The first time I did it was to please my boyfriend but I ended up enjoying it myself. I personally like to be held face down and have it forced on me. It’s very erotic and I really get off on it. – Debby, US

Wish I’d Known Sooner

I just had anal sex and it was the greatest feeling in my life. Yes, at first it hurt a little. However, it was well worth it. If I would have known it felt like that I would have done it years ago. – Anonymous, Vancouver, BC

Happy Bunny

Anal, I love it. It has to be my favorite sex act. We usually do it 3-4 times weekly. My preference is to finger my cunt a little and let my cum trickle down between my ass crack, and then I’m ready for some deep ass pounding. As long as it’s deep and hard, I’m a happy bunny!

Loving Bond

My husband and I have been having anal sex for about 15 years now. We both like this kinky exercise. We have the strongest orgasms then. Our naughty sex practices are a firm bond to our relationship. – BB, UK

I’d Never Do Without Anal

Anal sex is a regular part of our sex life and I would never do without it. My preference is anal sex with me in the doggy position. No matter how he’s stretched me with his fingers there’s still some resistance and I admit to loving it. Once his head is in he pauses and gives me time to adjust. The feeling is exquisite and I have to keep my hand off my clit because I could cum right then. It’s all so damn wicked and I love giving myself to him this way. I love the times he gets balls deep and slams away while I play with my clit, teasing myself, almost cumming. When I have to cum I let him know and tell him to cum up my ass. I rub my clit wildly while he slides in and out and explodes magnificently. I love anal sex! - Karen, US

Best Feeling Ever

One night while he was licking my ass he asked if he could fuck it, so I said yes. He literally ran to the bathroom and grabbed the lube. After a few minutes of massaging my asshole he lubed up and slowly pushed it inside and it was one of the best sexual feelings I’ve ever experienced. I could tell he liked it even though he won’t admit it, and when we do have anal sex now he makes it seem like it’s just for me but he is never as hard as he is when we have anal sex and he never makes the noises he makes with anal any other time either. We both secretly know that he loves it whether he’ll admit it or not. – Anonymous, US

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Of course it’s been part of gay and bisexual men’s lives for countless centuries …

…though not all gay and bi men are into it.  They are as put-off by anal sex as many are in the general population.  They prefer oral, mutual masturbation or sex without penetration, also known as frottage.  These are the guys who, as much as they enjoy m2m sex, believe penetration emasculates males.

But anal intercourse is only part of the picture.  By pushing your thumbs inside the gluteal cleft and parting the cheeks, you have the visual affect of seeing the most intimate part of your lover’s body, not to mention unleashing some powerful pheromones that will enter your nostrils and set you sailing, provided your lover hasn’t just washed them all away in the shower, not that I suggest lovers come to bed dirty.  But even when we’re clean, we sweat down there, which creates a powerful and inviting perfume, not lost on the human mind and body when in the throes of escalating sexual excitement.

This kind of intimacy presents an opportunity to bond with someone, to become as intimately close as two human beings can, to use your fingers and tongue, to send sensations through your lover that pushes him or her over the edge.  Just let go, include this ultimate foreplay in your love-making, leave the land of narrow minded social parameters and enter a world of human sensual adventure.

The first time.

If you’re thinking about it for the first time, there are some things to bear in mind:

1. Don’t be in a hurry.  Have your lover get into position after you are both turned on, sometime after the foreplay has started.

2. Stroking and caressing your lover’s anus is a good way to start.  Use your fingers or tongue.

3. Penetration starts with plenty of lube.  Some people prefer water base, others oils.  Start with a finger, slowly, a little at a time.  Your lover’s anus will begin to relax.  Move your finger in and out slowly, explore, then proceed with a second finger or a small toy.  The prostate gland (see diagram) is the man’s G-spot.  Gently stroking it may very well send him over the edge.  (Careful with the fingernails.)

Women, rest assured straight men feel these urges. If  you suspect your husband or boyfriend would like to try strap-on sex, or if you personally would like to try it, he may never bring it up because he fears you will think he’s gay.  Next time you’re making love, try stroking and caressing his anus, or even a shallow probe with your finger.  If you hear a delicious moan, the door is open to ask him if he would like to try anal sex.

4.  Whether you’re the man using your penis, or the woman using a strap-on, when the time comes you can’t just ram it in.  Go with a slow, shallow penetration and then back out.  Keep doing this until your lover’s anus becomes more relaxed.  Try going in a little further each time, watching your lover’s reaction.  You will know by your partner’s reaction when they are relaxed enough for you to go all the way in.

5.  Continue a slow pace with gentle thrusts.  It will feel beter and better to your partner.  Eventually the anus will adjust and you will be able to thrust with more abandon.

It’s a good idea to have a towel handy, and some people prefer the benefits of an enema prior to anal intercourse.  It’s up to you.  Anal sex is a process of discovery, a matter of loving technique, and a very intimate way to enhance your relationship.

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