Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike often misunderstand the nature of bisexuality. The thought of a person that is attracted to both men and women can be confusing and frequently leads to misconceptions and stereotypes. Below are the top 5 myths about bi men.
* Myth: Bisexuality Is Only A Phase
For years the gay community has challenged heterosexuals who publicly state that homosexuality is only a phase. Bisexuals face the same generalization from both the gay and straight communities. Many bisexuals are completely in touch with their emotions and desires for members of both genders and often feel limited by the thought of attraction to only a man or woman. Emotional connections often take precedence when bisexuals pursue a potential partner. Bisexuality is just as much of a natural process as homosexuality and heterosexuality.
* Myth: Bi Men Have To Choose To Be Either Gay or Straight
Bisexuals are attracted to both men and women on both an emotional and physical level. Some “lean straight” (meaning they prefer a member of the opposite sex, but same-sex partners are always an option) and others “lean gay” (which means they prefer members of the same sex, but would consider a relationship with a member of the opposite sex). Nonetheless, they are not simply gay or straight and definitely do not have to choose.
* Myth: Bisexual Men Are Sexually Confused
A common misconception in both the gay and heterosexual communities is that bisexuals are sexually confused. This misconception is far from the truth. Bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and are in many cases more clear about their sexuality than most others.
* Myth: Bisexual Men Will Never Marry
Alongside the thought that bisexual men and women are sexually confused is the myth that they will never be able to settle down in a monogamous relationship with a partner of either gender. In many cases, bisexuals put a lot of emphasis on emotional connections. That in mind, the opportunity to find a life partner is just as viable as it is in a heterosexual or homosexual relationship.
Note: People, including bisexuals will either engage in infidelity or they will not. It depends entirely on an individual’s character, their convictions and their ability to resist temptation, not their sexual orientation. However, over a period of time, bisexuals in a committed relationship often come to believe something is missing in their lives. Bisexual men, for example, who are devoted to their wives, sometimes recognize a desire for a connection and/or the unique forms of intimacy found only in a relationship with another man. I would suspect female bisexuals experience the same thing. Men often believe this is something completely apart from their marriage, and define it as something other than infidelity. It can be considered the one issue that may set bisexuals apart from their gay and heterosexual brothers. Unless the bisexual man or woman clears the air before the marriage, it’s the one issue that has the potential to complicate things later on.
* Myth: Bi Men Are Sexually Promiscuous
Bisexuals are no more promiscuous than any others. Promiscuity (or frequent sex with multiple partners) is an individual trait not to be associated with any one group of people. However, liking both males and females increases a bisexual man’s chances of finding a sexual partner or potential relationship (by shear numbers alone).
Article by: Ramon Johnson, About.com
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