Understanding the Male Psyche
Trying to comprehend the male psyche is like trying to comprehend the Universe, but possibly more of a challenge, though worthwhile when considering the particular male you may be interested in.
The first part is easy. His looks. To you he is beautiful. You want someone that looks like him. Done deal as far as that department is concerned. The next part is also fairly easy: the chemistry that’s likely to develop quickly between the two of you, or not develop at all. You like the way he smiles, the way he smells, the feelings you get when you are close. Two bases are covered, chemistry and physical appeal, you’re ready to fall in love. You’re ready, but you’re also facing the possible challenges of the male psyche.
Studies have defined the male psyche by seven categories: shame, emotional absence, insecurity, selfishness, aggression, self-destruction and sexual behavior.
Within these seven categories lies the answer as to whether the two of you are compatible or not. In sync in all seven, great. On the other hand being at odds with just one of them can damage or destroy a relationship, unless one of you are prepared to compromise for the rest of your life, or the other has the ability to recognize a character flaw within himself and is willing to change.
Sometimes, usually at the beginning of a relationship, the signs of a character flaw are subtle, or easily ignored because you are so head-over-heels crazy about him. But eventually you realize that can of beer he never forgets to open after dinner is actually a case and a half over the weekend . . . and you don’t drink!
Seven Categories of the Male Psyche
All seven categories are influenced by the the indoctrination almost every male receives from the moment he is born; it’s either a positive and healthy indoctrination; or a negative one, typically where the boy is taught to be a man within the narrow framework of what so frequently defines masculinity in today’s world. In other words, not enough input from his mother.
