Monthly Archives: June 2009

A Straight Man’s Fantasy

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I ran across this story and decided to post it here, mainly because I have heard variations of it so many times.  For many guys, the same sex attraction appears to be physical (though the anonymous guy who wrote this listed a lengthy criteria for the guy attached to the cock he may be interested in).  Many “straight” men fantasize about sucking another man’s cock, period.  No strings, no exchanging names, no having a beer together afterward,  just the thrill of feeling a cock in his mouth and bringing it off.  I don’t condemn or condone this, but I personally believe the experience has a much deeper value if the two men have an ongoing relationship.  Perhaps some of these guys are simply reluctant to call themselves bisexual.

Let’s establish something up front: I’m not gay. Which is not to say I haven’t given it a fair shot. I’ve kissed guys before at bars and parties – I was drunk, they were there, it was 2002 – and although the experience was pleasant enough, the pink neurons just didn’t fire. I’m an ardent admirer of the male form, but a six-pack and cannonball shoulders are qualities I’d rather view in a mirror than under me in bed. (My first and only male crush was on Bret Michaels – I was fifteen, and it was more envy than lust.) I have gay friends, but I am literally girl crazy. The only thing that mars my practically unblemished record as a straight man is my undeniable – at times, overwhelming – desire to suck a cock.

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Occasionally I’ll fantasize about watching straight porn with a guy before jerking off together and emulating the acts on the screen. Or sucking off the more notable of my girlfriend’s sexual conquests. Or lining up a varsity swim team and making like a circus seal. Put simply, I think penises are awesome. And therein lies the problem. I’m turned on by a body part, not so much the person it’s attached to.

Although I’m not sure how to categorize this desire, I know that I’m not alone. In talking with my male friends, I’ve never been as candid as I am here, but careful probing revealed that some of them share a similar fascination with other men’s penises, a willingness to go where no straight man is supposed to. Nine hours into a recent roadtrip with a guy I’ve known for years, I felt bored, tired or comfortable enough to hint at the concept of giving another guy head. My friend’s knee-jerk reaction was to label me a “fucking fag,” albeit with a smile and a twinkle in his eye. “You haven’t thought about it at all? Ever?” I pressed. With the oncoming traffic headlights working like truth serum, my friend began to lay forth conditions for how it would have to, ahem, go down. “Well,” he began, “he would have to be very clean cut.” We drove half a mile in silence before he added, ” . . . and really hung.” To cut the awkwardness, we both instinctively reached for the radio dial and accidentally touched hands.

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Wives Who Watch or Participate

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Thinking about a husband having sex with another man is anathema to most women.  Actually seeing it is unthinkable.

For others it’s an integral part of their marriage.  Some wives are not only present, they participate.  They not only witness their husbands give and receive sexual pleasure with another man, they explore and receive sexual attention from two men at the same time.   Not that they were necessarily predisposed to intimacy with someone other than their husband, they were, however, able to contemplate being married to a bisexual man with an open mind, weigh the consequences, accept the circumstances, and then decide to be connected to this part of her husband’s nature.  For many, coupled mutually agreed upon and acceptable parameters, the experience turns out to be liberating and personally rewarding.

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These women have decided they do not want their husband’s bisexuality to divide their marriage, or be denied, or see him live out his life in quiet desperation.  They don’t want to worry about him meeting other men secretly.  Even when they have decided he should have a special friend, they don’t want him living a separate life one or two nights a week at some vague rendezvous away from home.  They have prepared themselves spiritually. morally and psychologically to be part of her husband’s relationship with another man.

For wives searching for common ground with their bisexual husbands, this scenario can seem complicated and daunting.  On many levels, depending on the wife’s long held beliefs, it is.  However, based on the accounts I have read, bringing a new dimension into the marriage can also be stimulating, rewarding, and even exciting.  Often a man and wife become closer, based on the fact that this is a newly discovered way to be part of each others soul.  A new understanding has revealed itself, a new closeness, revealed by way of compromise found in very few of today’s marriages.

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Shaving Pubic Hair

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For a number of years now, the hair free pubic region look has been all the rage among men and women of all ages. Many people find the look of pubic hair unsightly, so they use various forms of pubic hair removal such as, laser treatment, electrolysis, waxing, and shaving. Male pubic hair removal is quite different from other types of hair removal, and the delicate skin in that area of the body needs to be given special consideration.

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Men have of course been shaving their genital area for quite some time, but unfortunately there is still quite a bit of misinformation around about how to shave a man’s pubic hair properly. An improperly done male pubic hair removal job can result in pain, inflammation and even in permanent scarring, so it pays to look at what works, and what doesn’t, before getting started.

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Some sort of male pubic hair removal has been practiced throughout history, although exact statistics on this intimate practice have of course been hard to come by. In modern times, male genital hair removal has been gaining wider acceptance since the 1990s, with many men favoring the clean shaven look that such hair removal provides.

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A Marriage Manifesto…Of Sorts

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A gay man experiments with language, love and law.

By Tom Ackerman

http://www.religiondispatches.org/blog/sexandgender/755/
November 17, 2008

I no longer recognize marriage. It’s a new thing I’m trying.

Turns out it’s fun.

Yesterday I called a woman’s spouse her boyfriend.

She says, correcting me, “He’s my husband,”

“Oh,” I say, “I no longer recognize marriage.”

The impact is obvious. I tried it on a man who has been in a relationship for years, “How’s your longtime companion, Jill?”
“She’s my wife!”

“Yeah, well, my beliefs don’t recognize marriage.”

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Fun. And instant, eyebrow-raising recognition. Suddenly the majority gets to feel what the minority feels. In a moment they feel what it’s like to have their relationship downgraded, and to have a much taken-for-granted right called into question because of another’s beliefs.

Just replace the words husband, wife, spouse, or fiancé with boyfriend, girlfriend, special friend, or longtime companion. There is a reason we needed stronger words for more serious relationships. We know it; now they can see it.

A marriage is a lot of things. Culturally, it’s a declaration to the community that two people are now a unit, and that unity should be respected. Legally, it’s a set of rights and responsibilities. And spiritually, it’s whatever your beliefs think it is.

That’s what’s so great about America. As a Constitutionally secular nation, or at least in reality a vaguely pluralistic nation, we can all have our own spiritual take on what marriage is. What’s troublesome is when one group’s spiritual beliefs deny the cultural and legal rights of another.

But, back to the point. They say their beliefs don’t recognize my marriage, I say my beliefs don’t recognize theirs. Simple. It may seem petty, and obviously the legal part of the cultural/legal/spiritual trilogy is flip-floppy, but it may be the cultural part that really matters.

People get married to be recognized as a permanent couple. To be acknowledged by friends, family, and strangers as being off the market, in a relationship, totally hooked up, yikes… it’s impossible to say without saying ‘married.’ We wear rings to declare this!

So, we can take this away. We can refuse to recognize marriage in the cultural sense. It is totally within our rights, as Americans, to follow our beliefs and recognize or not recognize what we like.

I guess this is a call out to all Americans with beliefs similar to mine.

If you believe that all people should have equal rights, and if you believe that marriage is one of the greatest destinations of a relationship, then perhaps you believe that nobody should have marriage until everybody does.

That’s what I believe.

Myths About Bisexual Men

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Homosexuals and heterosexuals alike often misunderstand the nature of bisexuality. The thought of a person that is attracted to both men and women can be confusing and frequently leads to misconceptions and stereotypes. Below are the top 5 myths about bi men.

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* Myth: Bisexuality Is Only A Phase

For years the gay community has challenged heterosexuals who publicly state that homosexuality is only a phase. Bisexuals face the same generalization from both the gay and straight communities. Many bisexuals are completely in touch with their emotions and desires for members of both genders and often feel limited by the thought of attraction to only a man or woman. Emotional connections often take precedence when bisexuals pursue a potential partner. Bisexuality is just as much of a natural process as homosexuality and heterosexuality.

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* Myth: Bi Men Have To Choose To Be Either Gay or Straight

Bisexuals are attracted to both men and women on both an emotional and physical level. Some “lean straight” (meaning they prefer a member of the opposite sex, but same-sex partners are always an option) and others “lean gay” (which means they prefer members of the same sex, but would consider a relationship with a member of the opposite sex). Nonetheless, they are not simply gay or straight and definitely do not have to choose.

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* Myth: Bisexual Men Are Sexually Confused

A common misconception in both the gay and heterosexual communities is that bisexuals are sexually confused. This misconception is far from the truth. Bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and are in many cases more clear about their sexuality than most others.

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* Myth: Bisexual Men Will Never Marry

Alongside the thought that bisexual men and women are sexually confused is the myth that they will never be able to settle down in a monogamous relationship with a partner of either gender. In many cases, bisexuals put a lot of emphasis on emotional connections. That in mind, the opportunity to find a life partner is just as viable as it is in a heterosexual or homosexual relationship.

Note:  People, including bisexuals will either engage in infidelity or they will not.  It depends entirely on an individual’s character, their convictions and their ability to resist temptation, not their sexual orientation.  However, over a period of time, bisexuals in a committed relationship often come to believe something is missing in their lives.  Bisexual men, for example, who are devoted to their wives, sometimes recognize a desire for a connection and/or the unique forms of intimacy found only in a relationship with another man.  I would suspect female bisexuals experience the same thing.  Men often believe this is something completely apart from their marriage, and define it as something other than infidelity.   It can be considered the one  issue that may set bisexuals apart from their gay and heterosexual brothers.  Unless the bisexual man or woman clears the air before the marriage, it’s the one issue that has the potential to complicate things later on.

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* Myth: Bi Men Are Sexually Promiscuous

Bisexuals are no more promiscuous than any others. Promiscuity (or frequent sex with multiple partners) is an individual trait not to be associated with any one group of people. However, liking both males and females increases a bisexual man’s chances of finding a sexual partner or potential relationship (by shear numbers alone).

Article by:  Ramon Johnson, About.com

Guardsmen Film Nude Female Soldiers in Shower

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WASHINGTON – A criminal investigation is underway for at least seven National Guard male soldiers who allegedly photographed and filmed female officers in the barrack’s showers at Fort Dix, NJ.

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Today’s statement from the Pentagon claims that the guardsmen filmed female soldiers from the 266th Military Police Company in the fall 2008 before they where deployed to Iraq. Commanders in that country where told about the incidents on May 21 and began the investigation within 24 hours.

The website Stars and Stripes reported that Army spokesman Lt. Col. Christopher Garver said that “as many as 21 female soldiers may have been victimized by the men.”

“We’re taking this very seriously, as we would any allegation of misconduct,” Garver told Stars and Stripes. “We’re trying to get to the bottom of what happened and make sure it doesn’t happen again.”

God help me, in today’s world I know this is utterly unacceptable behavior.  Female soldiers should be treated with sincere and absolute respect . . . but . . . on the other hand . . . MASH is still alive and well in the US Army!  Reading this brought up images of Lt. Houlihan, Hawkeye, Klinger and Trapper.  I know, I know . . . perhaps we could laugh hardier had it been the women filming the men.  Picture a world, if instead of criminal charges, the Army conficated the pictures and the female “victims” simply set out to get even.  Wouldn’t it be a more fun place to live?

Salvador Dali

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What’s not to love . . .

Dali once said that the only difference between him and a madman, is that he is not mad.  To call him eccentric is a gross understatement.

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A product of Spain, Dali was born in the village of Figueres in 1904.  Anything gilded or excessive he loved.  He preferred spending time with other artists as opposed to school, and was expelled from the Academia in 1926, shortly before his final exams, when he stated that no one on the faculty was competent enough to examine him.

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Though his work routinely achieved critical acclaim, Dali was often at odds with his fellow artist due to his controversial and often presumed political positions, along with his penchant for luxury and material gain.

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There is no evidence of an affinity for men.  If he had one he would have denied it.

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The great love of Dali’s life was his wife, Gala.  They began living together in 1929 and were married in 1934, a marriage that endured until 1982 when Gala died, at which time Dali lost much of his will to live.

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It has been said that, when he had a falling out with his father, Dali handed him a condom that contained his own sperm and said:  “Here, I now owe you nothing.”

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On January 23, 1989, while his favorite record of Tristan and Isolde played, he died of heart failure in Figueres at the age of 84

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His work, comprised of extraordinary imagination, sensuality and magnificent color, defines surrealism like no other artist ever has.

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