Homosexuality is not a Disease

The definition, the Studies and the Debate

(Yes, we’ve not only made it controversial, we’ve also made it scientific)

Homosexuality refers to sexual attraction or sexual behavior between people of the same sex, or to a sexual orientation. As an orientation, homosexuality refers to “an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectionate, or romantic attractions primarily to” people of the same sex; “it also refers to an individual’s sense of personal and social identity based on those attractions, behaviors expressing them, and membership in a community of others who share them.”


Homosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation, along with bisexuality and heterosexuality, within the heterosexual-homosexual continuum. The number of people who identify as homosexual – and the proportion of people who have same-sex sexual experiences – are difficult for researchers to estimate reliably for a variety of reasons. In the modern West, major studies indicate a prevalence of 2% to 13% of the population.


A 2006 study suggested that 20% of the population anonymously reported some homosexual feelings, although relatively few participants in the study identified themselves as homosexual.


Psychology was one of the first disciplines to study homosexuality as a discrete phenomenon. In the late 19th and throughout most of the 20th centuries, pathological models of homosexuality were standard. On December 15, 1973, the American Psychiatric Association, removed homosexuality from its official list of mental disorders. The American Psychological Association Council of Representatives adopted the same measure on January 24-26, 1975.


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Tantric Massage

Contemplating your first intimate experience with a new lover?   Thinking about trying something new with your boyfriend, or husband, or your significant other who happens to be male?  I can’t think of a more intimate way to create a memorable night together than Tantric massage.

On her blog, Tantra: Gateway to Ecstasy, Jennifer Lawless provides an excellent guide to Tantric massage for men.  It reads as follows:

How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage


In Tantra, the penis is called the Lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as “Wand of Light.” A Lingam massage is a massage of the male genitals using a large variety of strokes and grips. The goals of the Lingam massage are to honor your man’s Lingam and to help him to expand his ability to receive pleasure.


The setting and your attitude are what make a Lingam massage a special experience for your man. Prepare a quiet, preferably dim, space with a bed, a futon mattress, or a blanket and pillows on the floor. The temperature in the room should be a little warmer than normal because you will both be nude. Lighting candles or an oil lamp in the room will keep the lighting subdued and also help generate heat. Your oills and lubricants should be within easy reach. Try to get spill-proof bottles and use plastic rather than glass. Make sure that you have a couple of hours where you won’t be disturbed.


Begin by breathing together. Stand or sit face-to-face. Embrace or hold hands, look into each other’s eyes, and breathe deeply into the belly. Continue looking into his eyes and breathing with him. If you find he is holding his breath, place your hand on his lower belly and remind him to breathe from that place, to “fill his belly” with his breath.


Next, have him lie face down and begin giving him a full body massage. After about 10 minutes, ask him to turn over, and then continue the massage. Advance the massage slowly toward the inner thighs and pelvis until he is breathing deeply from his belly and his body is fully relaxed.

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Getting naked is refreshing, exhilarating and fun, not to mention it feels good.  One of the best illustrations of what it’s all about is posted on The Naturist Society website, and I thought I would share with you here.

What is naturism?
Naturism, or nudism as it is sometimes called, is generally defined as the practice of going nude, especially in a mixed social setting. While accurate as far as it goes, the standard definition fails to grasp the “why” of naturism — why do people choose to be naturists? Individual responses to that question vary greatly. For some, naturism is a carefully considered lifestyle; for others, it is no more complicated than a day at the nearest nude beach. What connects these two extremes is the sense of freedom naturist activities provide. It may be a matter of simple comfort-first-time skinny-dippers frequently marvel at how good it feels to be clothes-free-or there may be something more profound. For many, the social nudity that helps define naturism is personally liberating; through it, we come not only to accept ourselves but others. As we say here at The Naturist Society, “Body Acceptance is the Idea, Nude Recreation is the Way.”


Who are “the naturists”?
Broadly speaking, anyone who practices nude recreation, social nudity, or both. By that standard, there are many millions of naturists worldwide, especially in Europe, North America, Australia and New Zealand. According to a 2006 Roper Poll, one in four Americans-roughly 70 million people-have skinny-dipped or sunbathed in the nude. And while not all of them are naturists, the rapid growth the nude recreation industry has experienced in recent years suggests many are. No longer confined to small, secretive enclaves, today’s naturists have a variety of recreational and social outlets. Publicly owned sites like Miami-Dade County’s Haulover Beach, Long Island’s Fire Island, Toronto’s Hanlan’s Point, and San Diego’s Black’s Beach now welcome naturists, as do hundreds of clubs, resorts, and campgrounds across North America.


What do naturists mean when they talk about “social nudity” and “nude recreation”?
A number of things. But first, it’s important to know what they don’t mean. Misconceptions aside, naturism is not a code word for “sex” (see below). When naturists talk about “social nudity” and “nude recreation” they mean just that-nude group activities. The variety of activities varies tremendously. There are nude backpackers, canoeists, kayakers, scuba divers-even skydivers. For less adventurous types, there is everything from the traditional day trip to the nude beach or swimming hole to house parties, chartered cruises and weekend excursions to nude resorts or campgrounds. Most things that can be done clothed can be done unclothed-and usually it’s a lot more fun.


What about the law; isn’t “social nudity” illegal?
This gets a bit complicated, but the short answer is “no.” As indicated above, there are public beaches where nudity is perfectly legal. So too are there private clubs and resorts that are either clothing-optional, or where nudity is actually required. Legality is seldom an issue at these places. Nonetheless, while laws that specifically prohibit nudity and equate it with “indecent exposure” are rare, that shouldn’t be taken as an invitation to get naked “anytime, anyplace.” If you undress in the village square, you’re likely to get arrested for something-be it indecent exposure, disturbing the peace, or creating a public nuisance. Even if the law is on your side, public nudity is problematic in many jurisdictions. An arrest sometimes depends not on what the law says, but on what police or prosecutors think it says or want it to say. In some places, women are still harassed for breastfeeding in public, and parents are still prosecuted for taking innocent nude photos of their children. In more enlightened jurisdictions, a sharp distinction is made between lewd activity and simple nudity, such as sunbathing and skinny-dipping (for a state by state review of nudity laws, go to NAC & NEF). Part of the TNS mission is to highlight the difference between lewd and nude through education and community outreach.


Is naturism appropriate for families?
Absolutely! Naturism is about body acceptance and body awareness, which makes it appropriate for everyone. Therefore, families with children are welcome at naturist venues and events. Any venue or event that purports to be “naturist” but excludes children should be viewed with skepticism. Such exclusions are appropriate in some cases. A grueling nude hike or a late evening dance at a club or resort come to mind. But the exclusion of children is sometimes used as a signal that an event is sexual in nature. The Naturist Society has no interest in passing judgment on sexual activities among consenting adults; however, TNS adamantly rejects the use of the term “naturism” as a cover for sexual activity. Naturists do not deny the sexual nature of human beings, but they reject the all too prevalent view in our society that nudity and sex are synonymous, and that children should be “protected” from nudity regardless of context. To repeat: nude is not lewd.


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Can Guys Actually be Bisexual?

The following article from gay.com reflects a point-of-view many gay men have.  Sadly, it misses the mark, and does nothing to enhance human understanding.  To deny the existence of bisexual men, simply because they are also attracted to to men, is tantamount to what a straight man might surmise when he gazes between his girlfriend’s legs: “With this available to any man, there can’t be such a thing as gay men . . . only men who are afraid of women.”


From gay.com,  By: Ari Bendersky

There’s a joke that’s been floating around for a while. Questions: What’s the difference between a gay guy and a straight guy? Answer: about a six pack. For many gay men, landing a straight guy is tantamount to getting a great job, buying a Porsche or heading out on a two-month trip of Europe. It’s a goal a lot of gay men set for themselves, but one that they rarely achieve. When they do, questions arise: Is the guy really straight? Is he bisexual? these questions usually beg a final question: Is it really possible for a guy to be bisexual? There are a lot of opinions about this, but when you ask gay men, the answer is often “No.”

In our culture, if a guy has oral or anal intercourse with another guy, most would say that he’s gay, because, for many of us, “being gay” describes a man who has sex with other men.

Sure, we can say that many other things go into being gay, but sexual activity is what many of us believe what makes up the person who is gay. A man could be into leather and Levi’s; he could really like theater; he could really be into fashion. These interests don’t necessarily make a man gay, though. But when this man has sex with other men, there’s really no denying what camp he falls into.

So what do we make of these guys who define themselves as “bi”? Are they really fooling themselves as they screw their way down the path to gayhood, or do they really enjoy having sex with women? I realize that some people are just sexually charged and will take it wherever they can get it. But I say that if you’re a guy having sex with another guy, chances are there’s a part of you that’s in denial, and only time will tell when you finally come around to the realization that, yup, you’re gay.

A lot of guys are all about animal instinct. We get it when we can. We need to drop our seed and move on to the next guy. OK, OK — I just heard a collective scream from all of you who believe in the sanctity of a monogamous relationship. Of course emotions play a role in gay male relationships, and there’s no question that men can commit to each other. But think about how many gay couples you know who play around, either together or separately. Why? Because gay men like to screw.

And we like to watch people screwing. How many porn stars are “gay for pay”? These hot, buff, sexy guys who start out doing solo scenes, and then they let some guy have oral sex with them, and next thing you know they’re a Falcon exclusive bottoming for everyone. But then you hear they have wives or girlfriends away from the cameras who are very understanding and supportive. Or are they just stupid? Are these guys really doing it for the money and fame and glory? My opinion is that they’re not bi. They’re not straight. They’re gay and they’re fooling themselves. Or they’re fooling us. But do we care? As long as they bring the six pack, we’re usually pretty OK with it.

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Men’s Underwear

From drab and boring, to exotic, stretchy and loud, mens underwear comes in every conceivable configuration (perhaps the one article of clothing more diverse and imaginative than what’s available to women).  So what’s the best looking style on a man?  Call me a traditionalist, but my vote goes to white cotton briefs.























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