Contemplating your first intimate experience with a new lover? Thinking about trying something new with your boyfriend, or husband, or your significant other who happens to be male? I can’t think of a more intimate way to create a memorable night together than Tantric massage.
On her blog, Tantra: Gateway to Ecstasy, Jennifer Lawless provides an excellent guide to Tantric massage for men. It reads as follows:
How to Give a Tantric Lingam Massage
In Tantra, the penis is called the Lingam, which in Sanskrit can be translated as “Wand of Light.” A Lingam massage is a massage of the male genitals using a large variety of strokes and grips. The goals of the Lingam massage are to honor your man’s Lingam and to help him to expand his ability to receive pleasure.
The setting and your attitude are what make a Lingam massage a special experience for your man. Prepare a quiet, preferably dim, space with a bed, a futon mattress, or a blanket and pillows on the floor. The temperature in the room should be a little warmer than normal because you will both be nude. Lighting candles or an oil lamp in the room will keep the lighting subdued and also help generate heat. Your oills and lubricants should be within easy reach. Try to get spill-proof bottles and use plastic rather than glass. Make sure that you have a couple of hours where you won’t be disturbed.
Begin by breathing together. Stand or sit face-to-face. Embrace or hold hands, look into each other’s eyes, and breathe deeply into the belly. Continue looking into his eyes and breathing with him. If you find he is holding his breath, place your hand on his lower belly and remind him to breathe from that place, to “fill his belly” with his breath.
Next, have him lie face down and begin giving him a full body massage. After about 10 minutes, ask him to turn over, and then continue the massage. Advance the massage slowly toward the inner thighs and pelvis until he is breathing deeply from his belly and his body is fully relaxed.
