Married & Bisexual-Finding a Solution

Of all the bisexual husbands out there, a few join forces with their wives to find the solution.  The following is from an online bi married male group.  It reflects an element I think is important if you’re looking to get the most from a third party relationship; the connection.  Not likely that it’s love, but it’s in that family of emotions.

Once the hard relationship crisis started to ease after my wife found a copy of something I had sent to an online contact, my wife’s bottom line issues turned out to be: a) she didn’t want to be abandoned and b) she wanted to be INcluded rather than EXcluded in my “whole” personality including the part that had been secretive and fearful. So, it appeared the ball was sorta back in MY court. I didn’t feel experienced in gay issues, but I had more contact and experience than SHE did so it felt to be my role to try to find ways to start bring my straight wife along. We tried to be open and creative…to find things to do that I might have done alone but now we would do them together. We both went to San Diego’s Pride activities, for example. We read a lot—on any related topic. We went to a bisexual support group here in San Diego. Another thing we did was do some online chatting with people together….men who represented they were married but had interests in men, bisexuals, etc.

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We got connected with a married guy who said he lived in PHX. He said he had experienced some bisexual activity before he was married while in college and was interested in trying to do it again. He would start a scenario and then send it to us to pick up where he left off, develop the story a bit further and then send it back to him. Not long into the connection he said his job was bringing him to our area to attend a convention, trade show, or seminar. Plans were made to meet. The night before he was to arrive we got an email saying that somehow his wife got access to the email stream that had passed between he and us. Furthermore, his email address suddenly had been deleted. We were upset—not so much that we weren’t going to get to meet him after all—but more from the standpoint that if what he said was true he and his wife would be in a mortal struggle as we had been not so long before. We found out later, though, that what he had described he’d done while in college was kind of “boiler plate” erotic fantasy—that the “bones” of the story he told was familiar. What was new wasn’t the story…but my wife and I! We also came into some fairly reliable knowledge later that supported he had pretty much “chickened out” of the idea of meeting us. Such is life on the ‘net! What we realized, though, was that in passing the fantasy story-line back and forth, and our email exchanges with him had served to “bring us along” in certain ways—ways that we kinda needed at that moment.

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Vintage Nude Photography

From the early days of ancient Rome and Greece, on through Michelangelo’s day, many of us have appreciated the human form.  Beginning in the late 19th century and on through the 20th, we we celebrated the human form with a camera. Today we call the earlier images vintage nude photography.

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FREE…Kindle Reader for Your PC

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Still waiting for the price of a Kindle to come down?  Just click on the picture and you can download the Kindle reader for free and read Kindle books right on your computer.

All five of my books are available on Kindle at the following links:

THE PARTISANS

FIVE MARRIED MEN

THE STRANGE HAUNTING OF JOHNNY FEELWATER

EROTIC TALES FOR ENLIGHTENED MINDS

A SONG IN THE PARK

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Ryan McGinley Photography

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An Artistic Master of Capturing the Freedom of Youthful Nudity

Born October 1977, Ryan McGinley lives in New York City. He began taking photographs in 1998. In 2003, at the age of 24, McGinley was the youngest artist to have a solo show at the Whitney Museum of American Art. He was also named Photographer of the Year in 2003 by American Photo Magazine.

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McGinley captures the spirit of youth and couples that with a rare and often vilified personal freedom of simply getting naked and enjoying ones body.  Young men and women, guys and girls not quite over the the age threshold that locks them in the real world, who not only know how to enjoy their youth, but their own skin.  McGinley takes the older admirers of his work back to their own youthful days and makes them dream about how much more carefree we all could have been had we not been relentlessly indoctrinated about how shameful the human body is.

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Coming Out 2010 Style

MTV’s new season of Real World DC has cast a young man I think represents today’s refreshing attitude toward sexuality among his generation.  Mike Manning, a twenty-two year old student from Thornton, Colorado is taking time off to be part of the show.  He came out just before filming began.  The following is an excerpt fr0m his interview with MetroWeekly.

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Mike Manning (Photo by Todd Franson)

Interview by Will O’Bryan

MW: When you came out, that was as bisexual, right? You identify as bi, not gay?

MANNING: Yeah. I dated girls. I had my first serious girlfriend when I was 16 and lost my virginity to her. I dated girls all the way until my sophomore year of college. So I was straight.

MW: Were your parents okay with you liking guys too?

MANNING: In the beginning, they weren’t so much. They were nice, and they gave me the whole, “You’re our son and we love you anyway,” things like that.

The way I came out is I wrote my parents like a five-page letter. I tried to include everything. “I am telling you this because you are my parents. I love you.” We’ve always been very, very close. I’d played football with my dad, and we’d go fishing and shoot guns. I can stay in and watch TV with my mom and do whatever she does. My whole family, we’re very close. So I was like, “This isn’t a reflection on you. This is how I was born. I just want to include you in every aspect of my life. I don’t want to lie to you and tell you I’m going to the movies when I’m really going to a gay club.” I was just trying to be honest with them.

I sat them down, they read the letter, and then I was like, “Do you have any questions?” That was it. My dad was like, “Are you sure you’re gay or bi or whatever? Are you sure you like men?” Yes, Dad. “Are you sure it’s not a phase?” No, Dad.

I think the female body is very appealing. I enjoy seeing boobies and everything like that. [Laughs.] I feel the exact same way when I see a [male] Calvin Klein ad. I said, “This is how I was born and it’s taken me a long time to accept that. Believe me, Dad, I’ve thought about the whole ‘phase’ thing, and it’s definitely not a phase.”

My mom started crying. She said, “Does this mean I’m not going to have grandkids?”

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