Concerned About Your Protruding or Large Labia?

I can understand why some women have negative feelings about their protruding or large labia. Men are the same way about their penises … too small, curved too much, too hairy … so we’re all pretty much in the same boat. None of us are perfect, and most of us perceive our “flaws” with exaggerated emotions. But labia, like penises, are like snowflakes … no two are the same. In fact they are part of our physical personalities that make the human race interesting. Therefore, in this post you will see a variety of labia, all of which are normal, all of which would thrill nearly any man or any female lover.

Large LabiaWe’re all self-conscious about our bodies to begin with: too short or tall, fat or thin, our complexions are too light or dark or have imperfections, our butts are too flat or too broad … the worries are endless. But the labia are a special part of a special part, a part that women want to share with someone special. So they, like men and their penises, use the Internet and certain magazines to establish what is apparently an ideal look for their genitals. No wonder so many plastic surgeons drive a Mercedes Benz, especially those that do labiaplasty, a procedure, if purely for cosmetic reasons, I hope to discourage you from.

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Large LabiaHere are a few of the concerns women have about their labia:

Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex for the first time, I have never let him see my large labia before because I am worried what he might think. They are very large and are dark brown in colour, is this normal? Is this even attractive?

Large LabiaAfter finding out my b/f uses porn to help him along when I’m not around, I decided to keyword “large labia” on the Internet to see if what he’s looking at looks like me. …Apart from them being teens, which I’m not, I’m 27, all of the girls had small ‘perfect’ looking labia, again, which I don’t have.  I already felt self conscious about my labia, both minora and majora are large and hang quite low, they’re pretty symmetrical but there is a lot of them to say the least. I found a website showing all sorts of labia sizes, even larger ones similar to mine.. whilst I think they’re beautiful I still find mine pretty ugly. Added to that I never know what to do with the hair down there, leave it long to hide the big lips, or have it short, neat and tidy but have my horrible lips hanging for all to see. I don’t know. Its odd that I can view other large labia as attractive, some of them even turned me on if I’m honest, but I still think mine are ugly.

Large LabiaI think my vagina lips are not normal. My inner lips are way way bigger then my outer ones! It wasn’t like that when I was little! It really bugs me. I won’t even let my boyfriend touch me there, cause I’m afraid he will think I’m not normal or something. My boyfriend has asked me if I wanted to have sex but I turned him down because of this. Is my vagina normal?

Large LabiaMy inner vaginal “lips” stick out, is this normal? I’m insecure about it, and embarrassed to let my boyfriend see.

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I’ve read a lot of articles on labia but I still can’t seem to get the thought of my own out of my head. I have large labia that noticeable which I know are normal but still bother me. I think it looks gross in certain underwear and I am very insecure about it. At times I even try to tuck them in so you can see them. I am 16 and started noticing this about a year or so ago. I am not sure if I was always like this or not. I’ve been with this guy for about 8 months and hes been down there with his hands and what not but I am a virgin and I was very skeptical about even letting him preform oral sex on me because of the reaction that he might have thinking it’s disgusting. About a week ago at his house things started to get serious but kept my hands covering my vagina because I was nervous. He was confused at why I would do that and told me he really want to give me oral sex and I really wanted to. I eventually let him and he did not say one thing bout my larger labia. I was very surprised and pleased but couldn’t shake the idea of what he really thought. I still consider surgery when I turn 18 for myself. I just cannot get the thought that I look gross out of my mind. I really need help on what I should do.

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Contemplating The Nuances Between A Man’s Legs

Considering the smooth clean lines of the male body, a number of words define the symmetry, the curves and angles, the practicality, the wonder, the sheer masculine beauty. Long willowy lines sweep up the legs and flare dramatically into the curve of the buttocks. The back, strong, broad, divided by a subtle rift, sweeps down toward a pair of provocative mounds. The arms, graceful and functional at the same time, simply add to the overall balance.

But then here things get quite busy.

Gone are the smooth, flowing lines of the rest of the body. Here you find odd shaped danglings, clusters of hair, shadows and irregular shapes, curious colors and mysterious gateways, and odors found nowhere else on the body. It’s like all those graceful lines have come together in a confusion of contradictions; though, given our instincts, aren’t confusing at all. Here is the part of a man’s body, unlike the smooth lines and curves of his torso and shoulders, that can’t be ignored. The part the beckons, that mystifies, that compels thoughts no other part of his body can inspire; that, for purposes of commonly accepted decorum, almost always remains hidden from view.

What is it but a gift that compels a select few of us to appreciate this mysterious part of a man, that awakens our senses, that puts anxiousness in our arms and lips and fingers; that, when such a visual is before us, we abandon all other thought? Do women see it the same way as like-minded men? Inside their deepest thoughts, are straight men really unaffected? What is it about the nuances between a man’s legs that makes us want to bury our faces?

To contemplate other mysteries about the human body, also see

Male & Female … The Astonishing Differences

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Accommodating Women

I don’t title this piece lightly.If you Google transsexual or transgender about all you get is escort services and porn, which is fine if that’s what you’re looking for. I’m more interested in the woman, the girl that wants a boyfriend and an everyday life. There is a good size community of these girls, some pre-op and others who have gone through sexual reassignment surgery. The girl I find intriguing is the one who has decided to keep her penis, though everything else about her is female. My question is: Is she the girl you would like to be in a serious relationship with?

The following questions and answers are from Michael at TS Girlfriend

Not all girls are born female. There is a special class of woman out there, with a different set of attributes than the “genetic girl,” or GG. It’s the transsexual woman, or “TS.” A woman who used to be a male. “Pre-Op” refers to the fact that she has not had sexual reassignment surgery (SRS), the sex-change surgery.

Definitions: A “pre-op transsexual” is a woman in the wrong body, one who has breasts (through taking female hormones and/or breast implants), and a cock. A TS is almost always living full time as a woman. A “non-op transsexual” means that the TS will not have SRS. Usually that is also the case with a pre-op TS.

1. Why would a guy want to date a pre-op transsexual?

A lot of guys who show interest in TS’s are, in fact, bisexual. Others are bi-curious. Still others are looking for cheap thrills. Some men find TS’s to be more feminine than GG’s. And then, of course, there are guys who seem to just plain connect better with a pre-op transsexual than a GG.

For the guys just seeking a sexual experience, there are plenty of shemale escorts available who will happily provide an exciting experience for a fee, without any danger of commitment. Don’t know any escorts? Use a search engine, search under keywords “shemale escorts (enter name of your city or state)” — odds are you will find what you need.

TS’s tell me that most of the guys who contact them are, in fact, bisexual or bi-curious. They say these men are often looking for a same-sex experience but packaged in such a way that they have deniability. They seek to deny (to themselves, probably) that sex with a person who has both tits and a dick is homosexual in nature, when the guy is sucking that dick or getting fucked by it.

Some men find today’s so-called independent woman to be not very feminine at all, overly assertive, argumentative, prone to characterizing a simple male advance as “harassment,” and a general pain in the ass to be around. One guy told me dating a so-called independent woman “is like dating your brother.” Who among the women of today delight in being extremely (and classically) feminine? The TS’s.

Others find solace with a pre-op transsexual because she used to be a male and has a far better understanding of what it means to be male than most GG’s ever will. Any guy who is chronically misunderstood by GG’s will be able to appreciate the viewpoint of the TS.

2. Sexual confusion and disorientation.

Guys ask me for advice. “I met this transsexual woman at a club and I am really attracted to her but I am concerned that it means I am gay or something. Am I?”

Some careful dialogue with the guy usually uncovers the fact that he was very attracted to the TS’s femininity. Her look, her voice, her movement, her laugh, her smile, her scent, and all those other feminine cues that trigger interest and a masculine response from a guy. Gay guys are not attracted to those attributes.

Therefore, if a straight man finds himself interested in a pre-op transsexual and is experiencing some confusion as a result, then he needs to consider exactly what it is about her that is attracting him. If it’s her femininity, then he’s not responding like a gay man would, and thus shouldn’t worry about whether he’s “turning gay.” If the guy can accept that he is attracted to a somewhat different kind of woman and still wants to pursue it, take it just one step at a time.

Take her out to dinner or a movie. Talk to her about whatever, listen to her words. Look into her eyes. Can he get lost in her eyes, as he can with a GG? Can he relax around her and just enjoy being with her, as if she were a GG? If so, take one more step. Hold hands, kiss her good-night. In other words, treat her like he would any GG date, at a pace that he can handle, given his concerns. Easy!

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Worried About Your Small Penis … What do Women Say?

small penisShe has agreed to go out with you. What if she decides to share your bed? Worried about what she’ll think about your small penis? Rest easy my friend. Most women do not judge a man by the size of his equipment. You’ll see that in the comments below. Odds are, if you are knowledgeable about a woman’s body, she’ll think you’re perfect. If not, if she happens to be a size queen, so what? You’ll be better off looking for a woman that sees men with a different perspective.

Each woman is different physically, so there’s not really a “universal” perfect size. Me? I’m little, so my perfect size is probably 4-5 inches. But one of my friends is a little larger and she likes 5-7 inches. That being said… in my experience, size hasn’t been the factor that ultimately made sex good or bad.

small penisTo me, size absolutely does NOT matter. I’m 4’11” and very petite, so I don’t need a whole lot of penis to fill me up. There was one guy who was so small that I wasn’t sure if we’d had sex after we were done. (He was probably a couple of inches long and skinny as a pencil.) But anything bigger than that is generally ok. It’s true that there’s some “size queens” out there (women who just love really big penises), but that seems to be more of a mental thing than a physical need.

small penisGirth is probably more important to me than length. Having said that, the perfect size for me is about 6 inches.

I’ve had more problems with too large than too small. Perfect? 4-6 inches, with medium girth. Here’s the pros and cons on small. The cons? There’s trouble keeping it inside me during intercourse – and constantly having to “re-set” the table breaks the rhythm of things. The pros? Having a smaller penis means fuller insertion, and thus, more friction on the clitoris. Plus, smaller penises are easier to give head to. So my preference is on the smaller size. Here’s the cons of too big (girth especially). It can be physically uncomfortable, and it makes me feel inadequate – like I can’t take on more of him. Plus, having to build up slowly to full insertion breaks the rhythm of a sexual encounter. I haven’t had a ton of experience with too big, but in general I found more problems with them than pleasure or fulfillment. Could have been my partner, though, not his organ.

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Big Surprise

Bisexuals Really Do Exist!

An article from the New York Times by David Tuller

The finding is not likely to surprise bisexuals, who have long asserted that attraction often is not limited to one sex. But for many years the question of bisexuality has bedeviled scientists. A widely publicized study published in 2005, also by researchers at Northwestern, reported that “with respect to sexual arousal and attraction, it remains to be shown that male bisexuality exists.”

That conclusion outraged bisexual men and women, who said it appeared to support a stereotype of bisexual men as closeted homosexuals.

In the new study, published online in the journal Biological Psychology, the researchers relied on more stringent criteria for selecting participants. To improve their chances of finding men aroused by women as well as men, the researchers recruited subjects from online venues specifically catering to bisexuals.

They also required participants to have had sexual experiences with at least two people of each sex and a romantic relationship of at least three months with at least one person of each sex.

Men in the 2005 study, on the other hand, were recruited through advertisements in gay-oriented and alternative publications and were identified as heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual based on responses to a standard questionnaire.

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Sabrina Dacos’ Incredibly Sensuous Photography

Wanna fall in love? Wanna meet a girl that will dazzle you for the rest of your life? Meet Sabrina. She is utterly uninhibited. She takes amazing pictures of herself. Even if your are one of the fortunate few that cross paths with her, be prepared to share her. She may know she’s too much female for one woman or one man.

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Diego Bando … A Man With a Soul He Can’t Share

Diego is a photographer. Like countless other married men, he keeps a lifelong secret. But then we’re a secretive bunch, we have to be. Our wives, fathers, friends may not accept the things that cross our minds each day. They may not understand we were born the way we are and little can be done about it … but keep it secret.

So it’s my good fortune to have crossed paths with this man. With me he shared his secret, and now he shares it with you, a secret he deals with by sharing his body with other men through his pictures. Below, Diego Brando tells his story in his own words

Diego Brando. Is that my real name….not likely. So who am I? I am your husband…your son…your brother…your uncle….I am the guy next door.

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You all know who I am, because I am a part of your lives.

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You all know and love me….. but would you feel differently about me, if I told you that I am gay? I believe that most of you would! For that reason, I haven’t told you….any of you.

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When I was 12 years old, I fell in love with my best friend. No one can choose where the heart leads. My best friend became my wife 10 years later.

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After more than 30 years of marriage I am still in love with her. She is still, and always will be, my best friend.

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On some level, I have always been a gay man. But I fell in love with a beautiful young woman!

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I am quite certain that she knows that I am gay…..but this is something of which we never speak. If it is left unsaid, then neither of us has to face it.

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Wanna Shave Your Balls

I recommend using an epilator. This is a device with rotating tweezer heads that looks like an electric shaver. As the heads rotate, the tweezers open and close, grabbing your hairs and pulling them out by the root. Not for the faint of heart, but I’ve heard it said the sensation is much like getting a tattoo, and with experience it gets most every hair, leaving your skin completely smooth.

I use an Emjoi AP-18MS Emagine Epilator for Men, BlackEpilators) and I’m very happy with it.

Before using the epilator, trim your hair to about the length in the above picture. To lessen the pain of your hair being pulled out, it is recommended to first take a warm bath or shower to open your pores. The first time will be the most painful. After that, you become used to using an epilator and plus the hair that grows back isn’t as thick so it comes out easier.

Pull the skin tight and smooth as possible anywhere you use the epilator. It may take several passes. Still a few hairs may remain which you can easily get with tweezers. The results, unlike shaving, will last weeks (depending on how quickly your pubic hair usually grows) and you and your partner will enjoy smooth, baby soft skin.

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