Quite a number of straight guys visit Enlightened Male, not just because of the gorgeous females that are often featured here. They click through a good many pages, regularly leave comments, and sometimes send pictures of their penises (or more) to be posted on the Drop Your Pants page, knowing gay and bisexual guys will enjoy looking at them.
They’re here to look at the men. But does that mean they’re gay or bisexual? Of course not. It’s nothing more than human nature to be curious about what other men look like, to compare your body and your penis to other guys. It’s perfectly natural to appreciate the beauty of other men, on the Internet, in the gym showers, at athletic events or the ballet. It’s perfectly natural to enjoy getting naked with other guys at a secluded swimming hole or on a camping trip. It’s even natural to fantasize what it would be like to be intimate with another man. None of these things mean you aren’t straight.
We have museums removing nude statues at parent’s request. They believe their children will be psychologically damaged if they saw a penis. You remember the uproar during a halftime performance when one of Janet Jackson’s breasts made a brief appearance. Can you imagine what would have happened had that been a male performer’s private part? Little wonder boys are growing up thinking there is something immoral about the male body.
So it’s the social stigmas that prevent men from openly appreciating other male bodies. We’re indoctrinated from day one to shun nudity and same gender notions of any kind, by our parents, our acquaintances, by the church, and by our learned perceptions of what’s masculine and what’s not. Everyone’s heard guys say something like, “Why would I want to look at a naked man.” That same guy is probably here or on another site looking at them right now.
I’ll never understand how or why mankind has gone backwards since the days of ancient Greece or Rome, when the male body was considered a thing of beauty. Along the way, contrary to our natural human instincts and perceptions, religious autocrats have written the moral codes so many live by today. They made the human body immoral and shameful, something we should hide instead of celebrate; along with homosexuality and things like premarital sex. (Can you imagine marrying someone you don’t know you are sexually compatible with?) It has gotten so bad many people find it difficult, if not impossible to talk about these things, even teach their children about sex.
During the sixties, I thought we had freed ourselves of all that macho baggage and those misguided mores of days gone by. What happened? Body acceptance is in worst shape than in the fifties. Many men are covering themselves with towels in gym locker rooms; they’re certainly not openly admiring other men. You have to wonder what went wrong that caused us to resist the natural impulse to look at other men, and be pleasantly mindful they are looking at us.
On the other hand, a good many straight guys are freeing themselves of these ridiculous shackles. Look at the growing popularity of The World Naked Bike Ride and organized events like nude yoga classes, and the vastly popular websites that feature nude men. Many of the guys that enjoy these things are straight. The men, gay, straight or otherwise, that have gotten past the misguided rules are like small bright flames in a world of darkness, a flicker of light in a dark tunnel that will never die. They are examples of how things could be better. Let’s hope their numbers grow with future generations.
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