America’s Trouble with Body Acceptance

Article by: MARC PASCAL, The Moderate Voice

Perhaps living and studying in Europe on a number of occasions changed my perspective, but I cannot understand the silly outrage that many Americans show when some female displays her nipples, or other parts of her anatomy that are supposed to be off-limits.  Contrarily the displays of male genitalia and buttocks are more often treated as comic relief.  Public or private nudity does not pose a threat to American values and morality.

Too many Americans have an unhealthy and uncomfortable attitude towards the human body, the opposite sex, and sexuality in general.  This attitude also extends to the female nipple which is objectively essential for breast-feeding babies. Perhaps this unhealthy obsession with occasional nudity, and then endlessly discussing it and looking at photos on the internet, might reflect a lack of a healthy occupation with sex.

This blog is not a discussion about the many variations of human sexuality but just the simple inability to look at the human body as something natural and that human sexual intercourse in its many forms are a normal part of our humanity. Perhaps some fault lies with most of the world’s religions and some of their extreme American expressions (i.e. Puritanism) for such a social, emotional and intellectual mess.  Too many people were taught the strange view that things of the body are completely separate from things of the spirit, and anything enjoyable is probably ungodly and sinful.

We have for too long in the U.S. been taught and we still teach our children through our words and actions that human sexuality is somehow dirty and cannot be discussed openly in public, except by innuendo.  Thus we only encourage more confusion, exploration, and some excessive behavior because we cannot take sex out of the “prurient interest” closet.  Children need to appreciate their bodies and learn to fully respect those of other people.  They need to know the correct medical terminology for all the parts of the human anatomy and how to safely engage in sex while understanding the consequences. Then we can dump all our stupid euphemisms and warped attitudes into the garbage heap of history.

In Europe with its far more casual attitude towards human sexuality and public nudity, pregnancy among unwed teenagers and sexually transmitted diseases are just a small fraction of what they are in the U.S. We are certainly doing something wrong with respect to sex education, particularly if we want to eliminate the need for abortion and the long-term public costs of unmarried teenagers raising children. Continue reading

Circumcision

Given the choice, I would not have parted with my foreskin.

But what can you say?  You’re one day old.  Your parents were doing what they thought was best, whatever their reason.  So, from time to time, for the rest of your life,  you wonder what it would feel like to be complete, to be whole.  You wonder what it would have looked like; long, completely covering the glans, drooping off the end with a stretchy nipple of skin; or short and snug, leaving a peek at your pee hole.  You wonder how having your foreskin might have affected your life.

It’s an ancient ritual suffered by approximately one third of the male population, mostly Muslims and Jews and Protestant American guys, rooted in religious or cultural convictions and rites of passage into manhood.  Plus that boy will look like dad.  A logical question – why is it still going on today?

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Other than religion, the two main arguments in favor of circumcision (both  controversial)  appear to be hygiene and disease prevention:  it can get ugly and smelly under there (unless, of course, you wash it!);  you can be infected or pass along STDs (unless, of course, you wear a condom for casual sex!).  And believe it or not, circumcision has also been used to prevent masturbation.

In 1933 the estimated number of “victims” in the US was 32%.  The number rose to 70% by 1945; 85% by 1965; and peaked in the 1970s at 91%.  Then we finally started thinking about it.  The rate was 56% in 2005.  Today it’s less than 1% in England.

Somehow many Americans thinks the penis looks better cut.

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As opposed to uncut.

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Ask an Englishman … that’s cultural.  We’ve been conditioned.

In America the severed foreskin might be used for research in the skin-care industry; in some parts of Africa it might be eaten; Jewish law states that it should be buried.  Why don’t we just leave the newborn males alone, let the guy make the decision when he’s older and screws up the courage to go through with it, if that’s what he wants?  At least it will be his choice.

Many men are involved in foreskin restoration.  For the best information I’ve found on this, check out NORM (The National Organization of Restoring Men).

What about you?  Are you circumcised?  Would you rather not be, or are you glad you are?  If you’re not cut, have you had any associated problems, cultural or physical?  Should we stop circumcising male infants and let them decide when they get older.  If you’re female, what do you think?  Does it make any difference to you if your husband or boyfriend has been circumcised?