This series shines a little light on the human anus. More so than any other part of the body, it is a physical feature men and women have in common. Many consider the subject taboo, not to mention the notion of including the anus in any sexual scenario. But for those a little more adventurous, discovering the magic and mystery of their partner’s anus opens up a whole new world of wonder.
In ancient Peru some 40% of all married couples included anal intercourse in their love making experiences. Today, in Rio de Janeiro, 50% of the married population engages in anal sex. Beyond simple enjoyment, others reasons given are to avoid pregnancy or avoid contact with menstrual blood, or to avoid rupturing the hymen before marriage.
So what is the female perspective in the western world? European and American women aren’t overly concerned about broken hymens before marriage. And since they’re using the pill, they don’t have to spread their cheeks to avoid pregnancy. So why are more women trying anal sex and including it in their sexual repertoire?
A 1992 survey found that 16 percent of women aged 18-24 had experimented with anal sex. Today the number is more like 40 percent. Why? The answer may be summed up by just one word … orgasm. During their most recent sexual encounter, 65% of the female respondents said they had reached an orgasm with vaginal sex. The number increases to 81% for those who had received oral sex. For those who had anal sex, the number jumped to 94%.
• Nothing. stay away from there. 41.7%
• Some fingering. 19.5%
• Mouth/tongue action. 10.0%
• Anal sex—bring it! 28.8%
“To be urinated on while having shower sex.”
“Taking a girl from behind with a strap-on while she gives my boyfriend a blow job.”
“Acting out naughty skits from video games.”
“I fantasize about pirate role-playing.”
“To have sex with a hermaphrodite.”
(Today’s women have become quite imaginative!)
Many women who say they hate anal sex have actually never tried it. That seems to suggest their opinion was formed by either their preconceived notions and/or by how society views anal sex (which seems to be changing), and also from what they have heard from friends that have related negative experiences with a uneducated lover. The women that did not like it that had tried anal sex said it hurt, largely because their lover rushed and did not take enough time.
As for men, many men, despite the fact their anuses look like women’s, that they have the same sensitive nerve endings as women, would say penetration of any kind must mean the guy is gay. These are men that will go to their graves having missed out on some very Continue readingPin It
Including your or your partner’s anus in love making is considered abnormal or indecent by those with closed minds. Many of us have been enlightened. Here’s why: Anal play feels good! The anus and rectum are rich in nerve endings … the anus participates with the genitals in the engorgement, muscular tension and contractions of sexual arousal and orgasm. The G-spot is easily stimulated indirectly through anal play. Pressure and fullness in the rectum feels pleasurable to many men and women. Some people describe anal penetration as being a uniquely relaxing and meditative experience. The “taboo” nature of anal play can be an exciting turn-on for both genders. It spices up your sex life for both you and your partner by adding a new and exciting sexual element.
The following quotes are what people say about anal play.
“A boyfriend in college introduced me to anal sex. Until that time I had only had oral and vaginal sex. He was good sized, but after plenty of foreplay and lube I found that it felt amazing – just very “full”. Now that I’m married I also have anal sex with my husband and I’m able to achieve an amazing orgasm when I stimulate my clitoris while his penis is inside my rectum.”
“It feels amazing to me. I love the feel of my gf sliding her lubed up finger inside me, and then after using her fingers on me for a while, she lubes up our little blue butt plug, which has small ridges on it. As she gently slides it in me, I can feel every ridge as it slides in, it feels amazing. After a while of sliding it in and out of me, she pushes it in and leaves it there. We the have sex while it is inside me, and when we reach climax, it lasts so long and is so powerful! and towards the end of my climax, my girlfriend pulls it out of me and it makes me ejaculate that little extra! Sometimes my girlfriend will put her strap on, then slides inside me until we both erupt. The feeling of fullness and the pleasure is indescribable!”
“Both straight and gay men have the same sensitive nerve endings in the edge of their buts, specially in the place surrounding the anus.Straight men: let your girl friend caress those areas, and tell them to introduce a lubed finger into your anus for a prostate massage. You will feel incredible new pleasures. Many straight men reject such ideas because they think it is gay stuff; and that they will turn to be gay. Well, your anus has the same nerve endings whether you are straight or gay or bi. Even if you are totally straight, no problem whatever if you enjoy anal play.”
“My current boyfriend turned me on to anal sex. I don’t think he realized what a maniac he was creating when he convinced me to try it. All I can say is: WOW!!!!!!! He was slow and gentle and well lubed up. He is quite big and he made sure to take his time. Once he was in “to the hilt” so to speak I had a very pleasant and “full” sensation in my lower belly. After a bit of time he was, well let’s just say he was very vigorous! I had an orgasm so intense I never imagine it could feel so good. Then feeling him come inside me…felt like a living creature was released in my lower tummy!”
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“After 4 years of wanting my girl friend to lick my anus I finally showed her a straight porn movie of a girl licking a guys anus just to see her reaction. She was surprised and said she thought only gay guys would like that sort of thing. She thought it was really hot and now she licks my anus at least once a week and I absolutely love it! “
“I am 28 and have enjoyed anal sex from the age of 17. I saw one of my brothers porno tapes and it was happening on there and it turned my on so much I wanted to try it. I’ve never had a Continue readingPin It
I doubt anyone would argue that anuses were designed to be pretty.
You probably haven’t engaged in a discussion about anuses lately … unless you’re a proctologist. If you meet someone new that you’re likely to be intimate with, and you’re wondering what they look like naked, it’s probably not what his or her anus looks like that you’re thinking about. You probably haven’t even seen many anuses, in the flesh that is, including your own without the awkward use of a handheld mirror. Almost everyone is a little coy about this part of his or her body. Even where public nudity is common, a nude beach for example, sightings aren’t that common. Those fleshy rounds of gluteal muscle we have keeps our anuses quite well hidden from public view.
Of course that depends on how your buttocks is designed. Just as our anuses are all unique in subtle, sometimes dramatic ways, so are the butts that hide them. In the picture above, the guy’s anus is exposed by merely bending over, fairly common. The girl is revealing everything just by turning her back to us.
Which brings up another intriguing aspect of the human anus … it’s a part of the body in which men and women are remarkably similar. Not that gender is a difficult thing to determine with a quick glimpse, but that’s mainly because of the surrounding characteristics. For one thing, a man’s is generally hairier. His anus’s closest neighbor is a pair of testicles, a dead giveaway. The woman’s, almost as if her anus’s neighborhood is based on zero lot lines, is mere centimeters away from her vagina. You would expect a man’s to be darker, but as in the above pictures, obviously that’s not the case.
They are most often called assholes. Technically they are holes, though they usually don’t look like one. On the other hand, sometimes they do, like those pictured above. These two have well-defined holes, complete with shadows within. Just another little nuance that makes our bodies all the more interesting. It’s our naughty erogenous zone.
Here is another variation in our gluteal design. Even in the position this fellow is posing in, you can’t really see his anus. All you see is a certain drama at play, a shadowy rift that let’s you know with absolute certainty what you are almost looking at. A pair of determined thumbs or adventurous fingers are required to expose his anus to the sunlight.
I dare say female anuses get more attention than their male counterparts. Most men would see the above image as delicious. A number of scenarios would unfold in his mind were he to come upon a woman in this position, scenarios that wouldn’t exclude his fingers or tongue, nor exclude the smaller of the two orifices. For a man, the whole of what’s under those panties are dessert. Many woman, on the other hand, are loathe to venture too far behind a man’s balls, though finding yourself in bed with one of these more adventurous women is akin to winning the lottery.
While nondescript describes the physical characteristics of many anuses, dramatic is a good word to describe those like the ones pictured above. It’s a combination of things: darker surrounding colors, generous patterns of hair, and a variety of creases, wrinkles, fissures, pleats and folds that heighten the mystery and uniqueness. Interesting when you think about it, how fascinating the human body is, not that I think people gathered in social groups will be bending over and checking out each others anus anytime soon. Then again, why not? Just think about the resulting discussions, the commentary, the comparisons. Could be the most fun you’ve ever had at a party.
The lady above seems to be issuing an invitation. “You can look at my anus if you want.” “You can touch it if you want.” “You can stick your finger in it if you want.” “You can …” well, you know what comes next. But why would she want you to do these things, even hold her cheeks open to be more accommodating? You know the answer if, during an evening of passion, you’ve ever had someone’s finger caress your anus, or had someone lick it, or stick their finger inside.
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