The Body’s Mysterious Secret

anus_157Anuses are part of the body not even nudists often see. They might catch a glimpse of an anus, depending on the anatomical design of a particular individual, when they bend over or lie on their bellies with their legs spread, but our glutes usually keep them hidden even then. Situated between two fleshy butt cheeks, our anus rarely experiences fresh air and sunshine without the assistance of prying fingers, or by positioning our bodies in certain ways.anus_1184 Maybe because anuses are so well hidden is why we are intrigued by them. Maybe we find the human buttocks so provocative and appealing not only because of its delightful shape, but also because we know something taboo or “naughty” is hidden there.anus_1185 Male and female anuses look essentially the same. The distinguishing factors are the distinct male or female shape of the buttocks, and the more abundant hair in most men’s cracks. A woman’s anus is remarkably close to her vulva, whereas an man’s anus and testicles are separated by his perineum.anus_1186 Our anuses maintain a distinct smell, determined by sweat and natural odors that escape from the rectum. Even after a shower these components serve to keep an anus smelling like an anus, which many, including me, believe provide a sexual component. Coupled with pheromones in the sweat, the distinct odor causes your body to have a physical reaction. You will likely be sexually aroused.anus_1187 In time the natural odor produced by your anus will become offensive, especially if you don’t thoroughly clean up after a bowel movement. Most people rely exclusively on toilet tissue, which is better than nothing, but hardly adequate to clean yourself.anus_1188A good practise is to keep a supply of moist towelettes (available at supermarkets, drug stores and places like Walmart) near the toilet. Use them after using the tissue until the towelette remains clean after you wipe. In a public restroom, moisten a paper towel to take into the stall to use when your business is done. You can stay fresh all day with this simple effort.
anus_1189 Better still, install a bidet on your toilet.

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I purchased one for both of my toilets at Amazon. Under forty dollars, easy to install, easy to use, and they keep you shower-fresh all day. The up-side is you will never smell offensive.anus_1190 Visually the human anus wasn’t designed to inspire us with eye-pleasing beauty. In fact I would bet most people think they look gross, probably because of the anus’s basic function. Though many will refuse to recognize the sexual component of the anus, it’s a part of our body that definitely plays a sexual role. And they aren’t gross. They are one of the most intriguing features of our body. They provide visual stimulation. They are replete with sensitive nerve endings that, with a bit of thoughtful attention, will enhance arousal during foreplay and lovemaking. They add an exciting element to oral sex and intercourse for both men and women. What is more intimate than caressing your lover’s anus with your finger or tongue?anus_1191 One of the intriguing aspects of the human anus is the variations from one person to the next. Like navels, a person can have an “innie” or an “outtie”. The characteristics aren’t feminine or masculine, they simply vary. In both men and women, some anal areas are hairy while others are hairless. Some are nondescript fissures while other are far more dramatic, featuring bold colors, creases, ridges or shadowy openings. Some pucker and pinch together, while others simply sink into a person’s body in the form of a slit.anus_1193 Why is an anus so intriguing? Just look at the guy pictured above, a valley of dramatic pink situated between two pale white cheeks. The contrast is remarkable. the pink matches the color of his scrotum, another eye-catching contrast. The tiny downward creases trailing into a small shadowy hole. If that’s not anatomical mystery, what is? If that’s not an intimate visual, what is? The only question is does his partner have the imagination to enjoy it, to explore it, to make it part of their intimacy?anus_1194As the picture above illustrates, part of the anus’s intrigue is its proximity to a person’s sex organs. It’s down there close, adding to menu of sexual activity, adding its characteristic smell to the mix. Just as in the animal world, what the smells that go through our noses are powerful aphrodisiacs.

anus_177And there is the naughty factor. Assholes, looking at them, touching them, sniffing them is generally considered naughty, and most of us have a naughty streak that surfaces from time to time. But then sometimes it’s fun and harmless to be naughty.anus_150So enjoy the pictures. Perhaps create a fantasy or two about what you would like to do with your lover. Maybe get a mirror out and have a good look at your own, even do a little experimenting. After all, there is a great variety of adult toys designed for anal pleasure, either alone or with your partner.anus_1196 .

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Feminine Hygiene*

Vaginal Odor

Sometimes it seems we are at war with Mother Nature when it comes to our bodies, especially here in the United States.  I have offered a point-of-view on penis size and have talked about “normal labia”.  This article concerns the odors our bodies produce.  No, I’m not talking about bodies that have gone unwashed for several days.  I am talking about natural odors; in this case, vaginal odors.  The difference between this and other articles on feminine hygiene is this one is from a non-clinical male perspective.

As a writer, the word odor seems a little harsh concerning this or any other part of a woman’s body.  Natural fragrance might be more appropriate, but I’ll stay with the word odor because it covers a broad spectrum of smells, from good to bad.  Popcorn, for example, produces an odor, but most of us find the smell quite delicious, just as most men are captivated by the natural smell of a woman’s vagina .  You’ve seen or heard of men who have inhaled deeply when holding a day-old pair of panties over his face–it’s not the smell of the perfume she used that he’s after.

I’m certain there are many men, given the choice of burying their face in a freshly-washed deodorized vagina, or the one that belongs to a woman who has been on a long walk, would choose the deodorant soap.  I believe these men are handicapped by a misguided social doctrine, that they are depriving themselves of a woman’s essence, and that they are men who do n’t know how to appreciate a woman’s body.  After all, sex is best enjoyed with all five senses and the sense of smell may very well be the most powerful.  I’ve been there.  It looks like a vagina.  It feels like one.  Then you lick it expecting ice cream and get bland frozen water.  Or on the other hand, nurtured by a little time and accompanied by her natural secretions, her pheromones sets your mind sailing.

The simple truth is it’s Mother Nature’s grand design.  Though we’re loath to compare ourselves to the animal world, consider man’s best friend.  When a male dog comes up behind a female dog and takes a rather intrusive sniff, what he smells is telling him everything he needs to know.  If it’s a female, it takes hold of him and puts his train-of-thought in a new direction.  Like it or not, it’s much the same for us humans.  The natural bouquet the vagina produces sends zingers throughout a man’s body.  Along with the psychology of the moment, and the visuals involved, it directs his mind in only one direction.  All of your feminine wiles play a roll, but none of them stiffens his penis as effectively as the way you smell.  Do you really want to give any part of this up?

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Women With Negative Body Image

Women’s genital self-esteem affects sex, health

From The Globe and Mail.com

By Zosia Bielski

Study finds shame about their body can hamper orgasm and keep women from going to the doctor.

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Women who feel negatively about female genitalia find it harder to have an orgasm and are less likely to get regular gynecological exams, says a new study from Indiana University.

They are also often more critical of their own genitals – and other women’s – than men are, according to the study, published in the current issue of the International Journal of Sexual Health.

The anxiety some women feel about their genitals is rooted in messages gleaned from parents and pop culture, said study author Debby Herbenick, a sexual health educator with The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.

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“Individuals may adopt negative attitudes toward women’s genitals as a result of cultural-level scripts that suggest that women’s genitals are unclean or dirty,” writes Dr. Herbenick, who is also associate director of Indiana’s University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation.

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