Strap-ons. Do Men (boyfriends/husbands) secretly wish their girlfriend/wife would use one?

This question from a reader:

I was wondering your thoughts on women using strap-ons on their male partners. I rather enjoy this and find it helps with my bi urges.

My reply:

Whether we realize it or not, whether we want to admit it or even consider it, our anuses are are part of our sexual persona and a remarkable source of pleasure. It is also a part of our body many of us have been programmed to believe is taboo, dirty or objectionable. For a different view see a previous post entitled: Anuses … The Mysterious Taboo.

Of course by including your and/or your partner’s anus in an evening of romantic adventure doesn’t have to mean anal intercourse. It can simply involve caresses, fingers and tongues, or perhaps a well designed toy. Let me assure you that this has the potential to add a dimension to your relationship that will take you and your partner to a whole new level of intimacy.

But the question here has to do with women using a strap-on, which means she is going to fuck you instead of you fucking her for a change. This is where the notion stops for most guys. They worry, by suggesting a strap-on penis, their wife/girlfriend will think they aregay (no doubt a good many women would). Secondly, they can’t even imagine how to bring a subject like this up. Or maybe the guy himself thinks it’s a gay thing and wouldn’t consider anything inserted into his anus, let alone a fake penis. Even if he has considered it, wouldn’t it hurt?

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