Most women recognize the fact that a great relationship with a man, physically and emotionally, have very little to do with the size of his penis. However, their vaginas, like men’s penises, come in come in a variety of configurations, though women tend to physically adopt to the size man she has partnered with or married. In other words her vagina becomes accustomed to your penis size which in turn makes things right for her.
Even though the man pictured above is not overly endowed, most women would find him desirable and physically attractive.
When a woman is considering men for purely sexual reasons, many are likely to prefer men with larger penises, and understandably so. The man’s presence inside them will provide more pleasurable sensations, thereby meeting their objective, although these same women, having had sexual experience with a number of men, will almost never consider a larger penis as high priority in choosing a permanent mate. It is basically the same for men concerning a woman’s breast size. Very few men would marry a woman just because she has big breasts. There are exceptions of course … some women simply cannot be satisfied with smaller men, which I believe is due to the architecture of their vaginas and their personal mindsets, or both. It’s a matter of preference: some men prefer larger breasts, some women prefer larger penises. No matter you are or what your size, there will be someone out there that will think you are perfect.
Child birth also makes a difference. Call it the stretching factor. Plus with age, certain muscles relax. It’s not difficult to understand why many women would prefer a larger penis. But with the myriad ways to satisfy a woman sexually, even men with very small penises can be highly desirable lovers.
But when all is said and done, I think most men have the foresight to avoid women that make large penises their number one priority. What is the difference between that and being chosen by a woman because you have an expensive car. It seems far too superficial.
Some Female Perspectives:
… My ex was almost 10 inches and yes, it felt good however he wasn’t much fun in bed except for the main event. My previous bf was what I guess would be more average to smaller but he way more than compensated with how good he was. In my opinion, those who are smaller know it and tend to make sure they have the skills to please you although I can’t say for sure but that has been my experience.
… To me, a large erect penis is exciting to see and a little more exciting to play with. Personally, I don’t find myself fantasizing about small ones BECAUSE they are small, but large ones because they are large. But, as with boobs, penises are attached to personalities and an exciting personality and a dearly loved person outweigh by far any question of inches.
… I’m sure penis sizes are up for personal preferences. Personally, I’m not a big fan of long and skinny penises. Much prefer a slightly shorter penis but with a substantial girth. It just feel better.
… I guess I’ll answer this taboo subject with another. It probably depends on the size of the woman. It seems unpopular to say because the most recent generation believes that all women are the same size and the only the man’s size is variable. However, if this were true every women would prefer the same size penis down to the 1/16 of an inch and this is, simply, not true. I’ll use two women I know as an example. One bottoms out at six inches, the other ( ironically, she’s one of the shortest women I know ) can accept twelve inches.
… My ex had a large penis, but the size just didn’t work for me. I felt “stretched out”, and it just plain uncomfortable at times. Maybe its just me, but a large penis is not all its cracked up to be. Continue readingPin It
In response to the popularity of this topic and these beautiful women, I have spent some time researching issues that affect transgender women and the men they are involved with. On this post I’ve featured some points-of-view from men who have dated or who seek transgender women. The quotes are from the Tevolve Network, a comprehensive site that is an excellent resource for anyone interested in the subject. (Some of the quotes have been edited for clarity.) For many men, for a number of reasons, a loving relationship with a transgender woman would be a match made in Heaven. Bear in mind, for those who would prefer a pre-op transgender woman, many of these ladies are eagerly awaiting the day they can have genital reassignment surgery. They would want the man they love to be supportive.
Note: Why these women are posing for these pictures, I wouldn’t know. I do know these images offer a glimpse of what transgender females look like. I also know they are beautiful and fascinating creatures. Obviously, the vast majority of transgender women, like most everyone else, would not pose nude on the Internet. However, it’s nice that these girls do.
1. For me, I’ve recently just got into transgender women because of past situations with supposedly normal women(who turned out to be crazy or had some really big axe to grind) and I’ve found them to be pleasant, fun, and very sexually accepting in regards to being just as sexually aggressive as i am. and its funny but i never did once challenge my sexuality,lol. It’s like “um normal women can be dangerous, transgender women are fun. Let me try them out for a while.” Haven’t had a problem since.
2. I have found in my own trials and tribulations as a young man looking for what interests me in a romantic side is that transgendered women quite honestly make it easier to communicate or clarify how you’d like to date or pursue a relationship then if you were dating a genetic female. I’m a fan and respectful southern gent of the feminine prowess but seriously why is it that so many genetic girls make it harder to be able to communicate or understand what they’re issues are?! In retrospect I will say that it;’s always a great date for me to enjoy the company of a young woman who likes a respectful chivalrous guy to take her out cause that’s how it should be! Unfortunately I feel that with today’s society, the idea of the Audrey Hepburn styled ladies of old are a passing breed!
3. I have never been interested in men and don’t consider myself gay although I have always felt comfortable around gay men. I have always been attracted to sexy effeminate women and am now attracted to sexy effeminate TG (pre-op). In terms of personality, sex, everything else; I just love TG… I still consider myself heterosexual, however my woman has a penis and a wonderful personality to go with it.
So, the great question…..why? Well nobody asks, why did you marry a genetic woman so why ask the question of a woman who is ts.
We met and we clicked. We just had huge chemistry. I could not help but love this wonderful woman. When she told me she was ts, I didn’t think anything of it. I loved HER for who she was. I love her for who she is. Gender, sex or whatever has never come into it. We love each other and that is all that matters.
5. I believe trans women are very in tuned to who they are.To make that choice is a major decision in their life and shows who they are and want to be.I respect and applaud that.I would love date a trans woman.I’ve seen some beautiful trans women.I have no problem Continue readingPin It
From the Global Post, by Iva Roze Skoch
It isn’t clear who exactly complained about the nudity of the Greek God Prometheus, whose bronze statue now graces the area opposite the Parliament building in Skopje, the capital of Macedonia, but that’s part of the mystery behind this story.
According to this article in the Balkan Insight, the complainers were “unidentified women’s organizations.”
What is clear is that good old nude Prometheus — who in Greek mythology is a symbol of self-sacrifice because he stole fire from the gods — suddenly appeared a few days ago decked out in brand new tidy whities.
Made out of bronze, naturally.
The speedy official response and “cover up” have sparked debate in Macedonia, prompting some to speculate whether other statues, like the giant sculpture of a woman breast-feeding a child, which is yet to be erected just a few hundred meters from the Prometheus sculpture, will also get a cover up.
Vladimir Velickovski, Skopje-based art professor, told the Balkan Insight: “Our environment is small and frustrated and this (speedy cover-up) reflects hypocrisy and self-censorship….In private everything is allowed while in public everything is disputed.”
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Reposted from www.patheos.com
a) uproariously amused, under the impression that it is fake or
b) painfully creeped out, under the realization that it is real or
c) a little of both.
As it turns out, the advertisement is real.
As men, we need to confront the obvious fact that, as awkward as Bradley’s group showers may appear to us now, it certainly didn’t appear so to the men who bought and sold Bradley’s group showers then. If a man were to submit this ad to the Washington Post today, he’d undoubtedly be rejected as a prankster. Less than 100 years ago, however, this ad was accepted and displayed. Male nudity just ain’t what it used to be.
And this isn’t some big secret. As The Oatmeal has it:
1. They’re weird.
2. We’re weird.
And though I’d like it to be otherwise, it seems that we’re the odd ducks: Our modern timidity over the naked male form is silly, unprecedented, and ultimately a detriment to the manly life.
At no point in history have men been overtly nervous over their own bodies.Whether in the Roman baths, Greek Olympics, or in medieval Europe — where public nudity was common in bathhouses, and even priests appeared completely nude in certain religious processions — there has been ease about men, a confidence and a certain peace in the display of the human form.
Then came Puritanism. I’m sure we remember our history, so I won’t bother with the full progression of the revolt against the allowances, worldliness and fleshliness of the old, liturgical religions. I’ll simply give the end result:
Puritanism saw the world — the flesh, material goods, etc. — as evil, perishable stuff, good only for ‘getting over’. The world is fallen, in the clutches of Satan, and the goal of the Christian man is to reject it in favor of the spiritual world. The body — as part of the material world — is an essentially confusing thing, filled with dirty desires, concupiscence, unwieldy passions, bewildering emotions, depressions, rages and all the rest. It is not something beautiful — it is flesh to be transcended.
Thus a culture developed in which it was considered poor taste to say “thigh” or “breast” in conversation, and even perspiration and digestion became taboo topics. But hold up! you may rightly protest. We’re no longer Puritans! In fact, many of us are not Continue readingPin It
We’ve all seen the cover of Time magazine this week, so I’ll show you a different picture. Breast feeding … I don’t get what all the controversy is about. It’s about the most natural, and one of the most beautiful visuals I can imagine. They say women shouldn’t flaunt it. What’s that all about? What’s flaunting it? Why have we sexualized female breasts to the extent they are considered indecent, even at a beach? Despite all the positive and beneficial qualities of most religions, this is a perfect example of one of the negative impacts religion has on society.
There were complaints the child was too old to breast feed. Many logical, thoughtful people see it this way. On the other hand, many psychologists believe there is nothing wrong with it, that breast feeding until age three or four nurtures the child emotionally, causing him to grow into adulthood better adjusted, more independent and better prepared the face the challenges of life. I’ll buy that.Pin It
The following is an email I received recently. At first it stunned me. Much of what Enlightened Male stands for was called into question, basically by the nature of the pols posted here and by casting focus on the commonly perceived flaws of the human body; for example, men grappling with their penis size. A significant percentage of men suffer too many occasions of inadequacy because they are convinced their penises are too small, yet I am hosting pols that reflect a narrow majority of men and women feel size matters. And it’s true, I do feature quite a few articles about body acceptance concerning issues like penis size, labia size, etc. Do these pols and articles, by their mere appearance on this site, simply focus attention on things guys and gals try not to think about, and negate the body acceptance mindset that I’m trying to promote?
Here is the email:
I am a female author writing about midlife men who are attracted to each other. For this project I have read widely – including one of your novels – and have visited your sites and read a number of your pieces. There is much there that has confirmed me in my endeavor.
I have to wonder why the The Enlightened Male OFTEN encourages a focus on things such as member size and fur thickness/distribution.
Supposedly your cause, if you will, is supporting men who are attracted to loving both men and women. Your novels and stories have this focus. You hope men will be self-accepting, all along the spectrum, but you also want to help them (or so I thought) to focus on what’s truly important in relationships: Love.
You applaud women who accept and love their special men. You gush how you wish there were more such women in the world. Do you really think the sort of woman who loves her man “no matter what” with respect to his sexuality is going to reject him for the “wrong” amount of body hair? I am confused by your frequent polls majoring on such minor B.S., Martin, when what matters is something far less tangible than preoccupations from which I would hope you would be aiming to liberate your site’s readers. There are plenty of “UN-Enlightened” Male websites out there, encouraging the frequent consideration of body hair thickness and penis size: Why run with that pack?
The characters in your novels are searingly relieved and thrilled to find brothers, kindred souls, with similar inner/lifelong needs. Are they then going to take out the ruler and measure conformity to fetishistic preferences, after lifetimes of closetedness? What a Disconnect! I think you’re opposing your authorial agenda here.
Most bisexual men, as most people, hunger deeply for unconditional acceptance. I would Continue readingPin It
This is a comment written yesterday by a man named Jay. Since many of us are walking the same path, I thought I would call it to your attention . . .
Since puberty I have been more or less self-conscious about the small size of my penis. This has not however kept me from enjoying many happy sexual moments with men whose penises have usually been larger than mine. I am now in my sixties, and a new factor has entered my life. I was diagnosed with an enlarged prostate and put on a prostate-shrinking drug. The drug relieves my symptoms (frequent urination) but also seems to have caused my penis to shrink, even though it can sometimes reach the size it had when erect in the past. I realize that some shrinking of penis size is normal as men age. But now when I look in the mirror naked, I see a really small penis and this depresses me (and makes me self-conscious in the shower room).
In short, I pretty well accepted having a small endowment, but now that endowment seems to be becoming even shorter! Groan. I feel that many older men, particularly those on prostate meds, may be experiencing this phenomenon. Sorry to say it, but it does affect one’s self-esteem at least somewhat.
Having thought about this for the past year, I have come to the conclusion that the great advice on this site also applies to me and men like me. Be happy with what I’ve got, appreciate my penis as a beautiful part of me, and pay no attention to anybody who might turn a disapproving eye on it. But let’s be honest: it’s hard to stay positive about this. A loving partner can be very helpful. And I think it’s also helpful to be upfront with any partner, to let him know that “Hey, I’m still in here, still the same sexy guy I always was.” I plan to visit several old friends this summer (who have been sex partners of mine in the past), and I intend to be very honest with them and be proud of who I am and what I still have to offer. We might even have a good chuckle about it, and then get on with all the intimacy we can muster.
And it should go without saying, good sex is far more than penis size. The whole body is capable of amazing sensations and pleasures. The “blessing” in this may be that it de-emphasizes the focus on the penis during sex and leads us to new vistas. Like so much in life—as we grow more mature, we can become more mindful and sensitive towards ourselves and our partner. Good wishes to all who find themselves on this path.
If Jay’s message impacted you the way it has me, your heart has gone out to a thoughtful man. A man in his sixties, based on the all to familiar size matters comments, the jokes and teasing, has endured an unwarranted emotional dilemma by simply seeing his penis in a mirror. The emotional pangs are even present by being with or seeing larger size men. Jay is a man many of us can identity with.
Jay is also a man that has gone beyond the superficial mores of human intimacy so common in those who are basically out for no more than a piece of ass. He has discovered the essence of life’s most valued gift, that sex is so much more than being penetrated by an enormous penis, that human intimacy does not begin and end with a man’s dick.
Reread Jay’s last paragraph. It reflects a profound and basic truth.
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This is a hard-won perspective written by a man named Tom, a perspective developed against the odds during the course of his lifetime. Tom thought Enlightened Male would be a good place to tell the world his story, and for that I am grateful. -Martin
ME & MY BODY
I grew up with definite feelings of shame about my body, especially those parts between the navel and the knees that didn’t even really have names in my family. I didn’t talk about my penis or my anus even when I had medical problems or a curiosity about what was happening to me during puberty. Anything going on ‘down there’ was a taboo subject in our household so nudity was never even considered an option.
The lack of information about sex and sexuality left me in the dark to find my own way around. Information and misinformation was gleaned from my peer group many of whom were equally in the dark. Thus like a huge majority of mankind I grew up thinking that the sensual, sexual and even aesthetic appeal of bodies was something to be ashamed of and to hide.
I am now in my middle sixties and for the past twenty years I have begun to celebrate my own unique body that gives me huge pleasure as well as some pain and I have come to the realisation that I am not ugly because I’m fat, not disgusting because I’m getting older and my skin is not as smooth and unblemished as it once was, not unlovable because it takes me longer to get an erection and sometimes I can’t sustain it. I’m not alone in having the feelings and fantasies about others, not unique in finding bodies endlessly fascinating and that there are many people who love to be naked and uninhibited and have, hopefully, lost much of the shame that family and society have planted in us.
I now celebrate my body through being naked and enjoying the air on my skin, I am uninhibited about being photographed without my clothes and sharing these images with those in the world who aren’t shocked by the sight of a male body and the erect penis.
I am fascinated by my fellow man and the beauty of his body and endeavour to capture these wonderful creatures on camera and hopefully, together with my models, I can find a new way of representing us and our sensibilities to the rest of the world. We are not just the stereotypes that the media and advertising promote but we come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. We also have our own particular racial characteristics and are informed by our sexuality. Many of us have physical and psychological differences and, most importantly we are all born, grow old and die and at every stage of that journey we are equally valid.
Some say our bodies are ravaged by time. Maybe, in our extreme old age, they are. But a better term for our bodies prior to our extreme old age would simply be aged. Time changes our bodies like a splash of water changes a fine painting done in water colors. It’s in the cards for all of us, and it happens so much quicker than we think possible. This is why Enlightened Male exists, to celebrate our bodies and ourselves, to illustrate the beauty of life beyond material and theological clutter, to focus on the basic and important things Mother Nature has given us. Maybe Tom has helped us learn to accept and enjoy who we are, and have fun simply appreciating it.
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