I am a male, 30. I don’t why I have a craze for breast milk. IS IT NORMAL…?
Also please let me know if breast milk is good for adults of my age. As a child I wasn’t breastfed enough as my mom was weak and usually sick (am just like her, I mean I get tired easily/ dull all the time). So by taking breast milk at this age help me in developing my immune system.
The health benefits are well known for infants raised on breast milk. Though the health benefits aren’t as well known in adults, it is assumed to be beneficial and currently under study. For example, breast milk has been proven to retard the growth of certain cancers. One thing is certain, it can’t hurt you, assuming the source is a healthy female. The taste is generally described as sweet.
As for your “craze for breast milk”, count yourself among a good many men that find suckling milk from a woman’s breasts to be an amazing experience. The catch is the woman has to be lactating, which occurs when she is about ready for child birth, and for a period of time afterward. The length of time depends on whether her breasts are continuously stimulated by feeding her child, or having her mate suckle her. Also, women vary on how much milk they produce. Sometimes there is barely enough for the baby, while other women may produce excessive amounts. The bottom line is it’s a personal matter between you and the woman in your life. It can be a normal, very erotic experience for both of you.
Lactation has also been known to occur if a woman’s breasts are regularly stimulated. During pregnancy, breasts are ordinarily prepared for lactation because of the influence of estrogen, progesterone, prolactin and other hormones that increase in a woman. The body naturally responds and the ducts within the breasts increase in size. Upon completion of the pregnancy, the levels of progesterone and estrogen drop while prolactin increases, which means she starts making breast milk. However, without pregnancy and simply through nipple stimulation, prolactin begins to be secreted. This also prompts a signal to the brain from the breast to release oxytocin, which is the key to start the production of the milk.
The Female Perspective:
Female perspectives also vary on this. (The pol below will show us how women here on Enlightened Male feel about the subject) While some women may find the idea of their husbands suckling their breast milk to be sensually bonding, desirable and erotic, others will see it as perverse and disgusting. It’s a matter of individual sensibilities. So if you are involved with a woman that is lactating and sees the matter the same way as you, I would expect the two of you could have some very intriguing nights together.
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The following is an email from a lady that recently visited a website for bisexual men. I will not mention the website, but she came away feeling disturbed, understandably so.
“So I’ve had a bit of time to look over some blogs of bisexual men. The “xxx site”, as you may know is of a mostly gay bi married man who hasn’t told his wife. This guy’s blog is devoted to all of his sexual and some emotional affairs with men. My jaw is still on the floor. This guy has no problem lying to his wife. Why doesn’t he just tell her and let her go? I am not trying to make it seem easy, but this dude is consumed with his male relationships. He doesn’t mention any passion concerning his wife. He shows know remorse for his actions. This is what frightens women. And I know there are more blogs and many more men that think and act in the same manner.
“As I stated on your site, I’m trying to understand, but selfish, assholes like this make it incredibly difficult. This is why women run. This guy has had sex with , God knows how many men , and who knows he may pass something on to his wife …that is if he chooses to have sex with her…she is unknowingly having sex with everyone else he has been with. And no safe sex is 100%.
This is what goes through a woman’s mind. Nightmare scenarios such as this.”
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This is a dilemma many couples face; the email is a perspective offered by a female voice. The scenario has played out countless times: A young bisexual man wants a traditional life, meets a girl, falls in love and gets married, failing to tell to her about his sexuality before the vows are spoken. All to often, at some point in his life, his urges for men become overwhelming. This is when he has to make a decision; either grow old in quiet desperation; or finally discuss his sexuality with his wife, hoping the matter can be resolved to their mutual satisfaction; or secretly go behind her back.
If your wife or future wife loves you, your bisexuality will most likely not greatly impact how she feels about you. It’s how you plan to deal with your desires that will cause her concern. If you would like to be married and still have a like-minded friend, the best course is to marry a woman that understands and will agree to you having a friend, usually under mutually agreed to conditions.
Most bisexual men are loving, monogamous boyfriends or husbands. Their sexuality is but a facet of their personality. Enlightened Male is largely a bisexual website that condones non-monogamous relationships, but only if all concerned are agreed. However, there are some men that dearly love their wives but simply cannot tell her about his same-sex urges because of her point-of-view or nature. Some understanding here applies, but only under well thought out circumstances. A friend that happens to married, for example, a friend that can be trusted and doesn’t take risks with hookups, etc. Such friendships exist with varying degrees of intimacy, without risks to either of their wives.
I didn’t know it was anal sex . . .
I wanted to share an experience, something I haven’t told anyone about which happened once or maybe twice. When I was 5 or 6 years old my elder brother who at that time would’ve been around 12 or 13, got me naked and rubbed his penis in my ass crack, and surprisingly enough I enjoyed it even though I didn’t know at the time that it was something sexual. That feeling has been in my mind since. Not that I’m attracted to my brother, or any men, but I did like that feeling of something against my ass.
Does that mean something ?
This is the kind of thing almost all boys do at some point or another, usually out of natural curiosity. Young boys naturally like doing things they aren’t supposed to, especially things that are naughty. It’s part of growing up. You didn’t know your brother’s activity was sexual, but you most likely knew it was something that you didn’t want to get caught doing. That coupled with the fact it felt good is what caused it to lodge in your memory all these years in a positive way.
The bigger picture has to do with the sensitive nerve endings in that part of your body, which is the reason so many adults, both men and women, enjoy anal sex. Anal sex is common and is a normal part of the retinue of sexual pleasures. In fact anal sex is one of the most intimate of sexual pleasures. Many people associate anal sex with gay activity, which of course it is, but certainly not limited to gay men. Straight men can enjoy it as well, with dildos during masturbation, or with fingers or adult toys with their wives or girlfriends.
So the memory that’s whispering in your ear is something else you can ponder and explore. If you have a girlfriend, you might want to introduce her to anal sex by using your fingers or tongue, then you can judge by her response whether or not she would like to explore further. Or you might want to explore by yourself, using plenty of lubrication and an appropriately shaped toy or vegetable. You might, if you are single and have a like-minded friend, consider a little exploring with him. Just have fun and don’t worry about what other misguided people might think.
My name is Abhay and I’m 18. I’m a big fan of Enlightened Male and I find it quite interesting. For like an year or so I’m in a dilemma and I feel that you’re the perfect person to help me with it. I’m having a same-sex fantasy and they are sexual in nature. It’s not like I’m attracted to the same sex but I do have urges to perform oral sex or please a man. The more I think about it the more intense the fantasy becomes, but when I masturbate it’s all gone and I feel disgusted. I don’t know what to do. The emotions are very intense.
Many straight men have same-sex fantasies. Often in the aftermath of a climax, they feel the same kind of disgust and shame you do. First of all, the fantasy is normal. By having the fantasy, it doesn’t automatically follow you are latent gay or even bisexual. A fantasy is just that, a fantasy and nothing more. Almost everyone has them and they are often out-of-character for the individual. In other words, people get turned on by their fantasies but they would never dream of actually acting on them. So the solution is to simply accept the fact your fantasy turns you on and enjoy masturbating to it.
As for the disgust you feel afterwards: I believe this is rooted in our lifelong indoctrination of what it means to be a “real” man. You’ve been taught that real men would never have oral sex with another man, or even think about it; therefore you feel disgusted and guilty after your climaxes. It’s important to remember the fantasy is normal and means nothing. It has nothing to do with your sexuality or who you are. In the event your fantasy takes on more significance as you grow older, there is nothing wrong with that either. I personally believe it is natural for men to feel a real desire for other men, and that most men feel this way to some degree or another, though many wouldn’t never admit it or act on it.
So be yourself. Enjoy your fantasies. With a little determination, I think your feelings of disgust will eventually evaporate like a wisp of smoke.Pin It
The bisexual husband: his perspective is different from his wife’s.
The men in my novel Five Married Men not only recognize their bisexuality, they give in to their urges and act on them. Since their wives have typical perspectives on this issue, the men set up secret lives camouflaged by a system of lies. Though their wives would see their secret rendezvous as betrayal and infidelity, the men fully believe their physical intimacy with each other is apart from their marriages, and is no reflection on how much they cherish the women they married. But they know their wives would never it this way.
What begins as largely a physical attraction, soon becomes a deep emotional bond, something that fills a void in their lives, which is in addition to the love they have for their women. All of the factors in Five Married Men are not necessarily typical of married bisexual men. They are, however, things married bisexual men think about, even fantasize about, just not things they would necessarily do. In a strong loving marriage built on a foundation of time and honesty, most bisexual married men would not consider lying to their wives, let alone get involved with another man. Still, for him, something will always be missing. That’s the nature of this beast.
Therein lies a lifetime of conflicts, conflicts that often intensify as a man grows older. As the years go by, countless notions and scenarios pass through a bisexual man’s mind. While many bisexual married men can and will live out their lives scarcely impacted by their secret, more than a few find themselves wrestling with a relentless phantom. Many will contemplate talking to their wives about their bisexuality. But how would she take it? What would it do to our marriage? They think about how nice it would be to have a like-minded friend, someone to talk to, maybe even touch and participate with in some mutual exploring. They reason it all out: it wouldn’t hurt anything if she didn’t find out. It wouldn’t make me love her any less. They believe to act on their urges on some level would address their needs without harming anyone, certainly not their marriages.
But often the wife will inevitably find out. Perhaps she senses a change in his behavior, or notices something on his computer, or perhaps he will decide to confess. It’s like a bomb going off on her emotions. Very little could possibly impact her less. She is stunned, angry and confused all at the same time. She can’t believe her husband is interested in men … he’s not like that. She is shocked that he lied to her. Why didn’t he tell me before now, before we got married? She worries her marriage has been destroyed, that he will leave her for a man.
The problem here is the two utterly different perspectives. Whereas the wife has had a bombshell go off in her life, it’s something the husband has lived with and pondered many years. To her it’s a total disaster; to him everything is essentially normal. This is where the husband has the responsibility put his perspective on hold and be especially mindful of his wife’s emotions. Understand and share her hurt. Giver her time. Let her express her emotions without arguing with them. Just listen while she vents. Find opportunities to reassure her. Let her know his love for her hasn’t changed, that he no longer wants to hide who he is from her, that he wants her to love him despite his bisexuality.
So why didn’t he tell you before you married him? First of, he should have told you. But he didn’t. Maybe because he was afraid you wouldn’t understand, that you wouldn’t marry him. Or he might have honestly believed his love for you would neutralize his bisexuality. It might have been because he was young and still ashamed of the same-sex urges he felt due of his upbringing. Also, being young and in love, a giddy time in anyone’s life, he was probably too caught up in how he felt about you to even be thinking about those errant fantasies about men. Whatever his reason, a new hand has been dealt and the wife now has to not only deal with it, but also figured out which direction her marriage should go.
Days or weeks after the initial shock wears off, the time eventually comes to sensibly talk it out, to reestablish the marriage under new circumstances and mutually agree to the parameters. Those parameters will vary radically from one couple to the next. Most wives will not want to share their husband with anyone, period. Most women, though they are able to accept their husbands bisexuality, they will not be able to accept his acting on it, no matter what. She will want a commitment from him to agree to this, which gives the husband virtually no choice … he had made this pledge in his wedding vows. Then she will likely want to put the matter out of her mind and back into the closet. I believe, if the marriage is built on a solid, loving foundation, most men will love their wives enough to play by the rules. Even then, in time, a woman’s point-of-view and attitude may evolve.
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Some women will see things differently. Some women will graciously accept their husband’s bisexuality, see it in a positive light, want to know more, have many questions. Again, there are as many variations of acceptance as there are women. Acceptance may end with simple curiosity, coupled with his assurance to remain faithful. But as you can see by the pol (above) results, for some women acceptance goes further than curiosity. Continue readingPin It
You grow up wondering what’s wrong with you. You want to play with the other little girls because you identify with them, but you are expected to play with the little boys. You finally reach your early teenage years, only to face the horrors of what’s happening to your body: facial hair, hairy arms and legs, genitals that have only gotten bigger and more prominent. You can’t believe how deep your voice has gotten.
Everyone says you’re a boy because you look like one. They don’t know or care how you really feel inside. You come to realize you are a girl born in a boy’s body. Life is basically a miserable experience until the day comes that you finally decide.
You don’t have to look like a boy. Looking into it, you learn all about the treatments and procedures. Hormone therapy comes first, usually accompanied by psychological therapy. There is voice training because your voice doesn’t change with estrogen therapy. There is facing your friends and family and hoping for acceptance. And finally, when you finally look like a woman, when no one could guess you aren’t, you have to decide on the last step … genital reassignment.
You start the hormone therapy, a slow process, pills or injections or both. Eventually your breasts begin to appear, your nipples start getting larger, more like a woman’s. The hair thins on your arms and legs. That which doesn’t disappear, you deal with using laser treatments. Your skin gets softer, smoother, more supple.
The bulk in your upper body begins to disappear. Your shoulders grow smaller, your arms thinner, your back narrows and you feel weaker. The new layers of fat in your lower body give your hips a softer, more rounded feminine look. Your mood is subject to change in different ways, something akin to PMS.
Your testicles have shrunken as well as your prostate. You no longer produce sperm. Only a small amount of seminal fluid produced by your prostate comes out when you ejaculate. Your erections are probably less dramatic, or perhaps all but non-existent. Your sex drive is less aggressive than it was when you were still physically a man.
Two years pass. Your breasts have reached size B, or if your lucky, size C, very few girls Continue readingPin It