A different angle on understanding body acceptance, human sexuality and bisexual men.
Suppose you start with a clean slate. Suppose our many religions never got into the anti-sex business. Suppose it wouldn’t occur to us to tell young boys their penises are naughty and should always be covered. Wash away all the lifelong indoctrinations, the prejudices and the nurtured guilt. You would have a society where men could feel good about their own thoughts and see the world through a natural prism.
Such societies do exist, though they exist in the world’s remotest jungles. These people haven’t been taught to be ashamed of their bodies. They live their lives without clothes. I wonder how they perceive same-sex attractions. Not that I see these primitive worlds as dreamy Utopias. Who would want to give up electric lights and the Internet? I’m saying if we’re not taught that certain things come naturally, such as body acceptance and diversity in human sexuality, we could live our lives naturally. We could take off all our clothes at public beaches, play in the surf naked, enjoy our bodies with all their unique nuances, and the bodies of others without guilt or shame.
Men would not be frowned upon, mocked or threatened for thoughts that come to them naturally. The inherent desire for an intimate relationship with other men found in the majority of us would not be suppressed, or denied, or condemned. No, I don’t believe most men would be out pursuing intimacy with other men. Most would still be pursuing women. They would still have a desire to spend their lives with a woman, make a home and have children. But since their minds have been cleansed of the ancient and tiresome dogmas, certain circumstances bring on thoughts and ideas.
Two guys, coworkers, plan a camping weekend together, for example. They end up finding a spot in a seclude cove. They’ve been fishing all morning. It’s gotten hot so they decide to go for a swim. Off comes their clothes and they dive into the water, splash around and engage in a little horseplay. Neither has ever had a same-sex experience, nor have they sought one; yet the nudity, the close proximity, the inadvertent touching where they’ve never touched or been touched before becomes the catalyst for two erections. Certain curiosities evolve in their minds. Camaraderie and laughter turns into thoughtful gazes. Each realizes that he finds the other attractive, for a man that is. “Have you ever …” one asks the other, which opens the door for a little mutual exploring. Before day’s end, a friendship has reached a new level.
To carry the example a little further: as the weekend draws to a close, both men go home to their wives. Typically, based on testimonial I’ve read, these men returned to home with a heightened appreciation for their wives, a rekindled awareness of how much they love the women they married, yet they feel somewhat different about themselves, more rounded, more connected to life. It was a weekend a new memory was born, a weekend that brought Continue readingPin It
Human intimacy. It’s our most basic motivation. On the surface it’s impractical … why would we so often feel a compelling need to connect ourselves, our hands, our lips and mouths to someone’s genitals. For those of us that need no reason and simply appreciate our circumstances, it’s magical, physically, psychologically and emotionally.
Tom inherited the small New Mexico ranch from his father. He scratched a living from the pecan grove and raising a few cattle. He had lived alone on the ranch since his parents died and had grown quite content with his life. He had not seen his sister, Charlene, in nearly ten years.
On a warm summer day when Tom was out by the barn repairing a fence, Charlene and her daughter unexpectedly showed up in a battered pickup truck. Watching his sister step out of the truck he could see by the way she was dressed that she hadn’t changed. Too much makeup, jeans too tight for a woman her age, too many futile trips around the block. It seems she had come home to stay, at least until some trucker or other miscreant came along and temped her to run off with him.
When Charlene’s daughter, Celia, finally decided to get out of the truck, he saw a carbon copy of her mother at that age. He saw a young rebel, a girl even prettier than her mother, a challenge in need of a father’s attention that she never had. What he didn’t see was the trouble the two women had left behind, or the way Celia would turn the life he had always known upside down.Pin It
My new story is called My Sister. It’s about a brother and sister who find themselves in an intimate relationship. By definition it’s called incest. Normally I would invite you to take a look at it on Amazon, but to my astonishment Amazon refuses to offer it for sale, stating it violates Amazon’s terms and conditions, without telling me why.
And I couldn’t figure out why. None of the characters are under the legal age of consent. The cover is no more suggestive than countless other covers found on Amazon. If you keyword incest on Amazon you get 6,840 results. As far as sexual content is concerned, there are thousands of titles on Amazon that are no less graphic. Based on what I’ve been able to conclude, Amazon has decided to dabble in censorship. It would seem they have a mountain of books to burn.
I fully agree with censorship when it comes to using children in sexual situations, or brutality against women, or blatant threats to national security; but sexual encounters between brothers and sisters, though far less common than conventional relationships, are part of the human fabric. Suggestive book covers are part of marketing erotic stories. So I’m still scratching my head.
Barnes & Noble had no such problem with this title, and it is available there. If you have a Nook, check it out here. If not you can download Barnes & Noble’s fee Nook app for your PC or other device here. It’s only $1.49 and I think you’ll enjoy the read. If you would like to read an excerpt, click here.Pin It
I’ve never figured out why erotic images are considered offensive by so many. Nothing in life is nearly so compelling as human sexuality and intimacy. One would think, like the early Romans did, that such images would be a rather rewarding way to celebrate what almost all of us so often think about. Oh well, none of that baggage here on Enlightened Male. Here are some images that I found quite intriguing.
Married shortly after college, the two couples had been best friends for ten years. They had given birth to their children and had established their careers. The wives shopped together and took theirs kids to soccer games. The husbands worked out together three times a week at the gym. All four of them vacationed together every summer. All these years later, their marriages could be described with a yawn.
Can the monotony of her daily routines bring a wife to wits end? Can a husband’s desperation for adventure take him over the edge? As they walked into the rented beach house on the Florida coast to begin their summer vacation, it was Brad that had come to a breaking point. Overwhelmed by a sudden impulse, he decided the four of them needed a little excitement, to do something daring and different, to risk his marriage by doing something so shocking that his wife and two best friends would be forced to deal with their secrets.
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Female Ejaculation …
Wikipedia defines female ejaculation this way:
Female ejaculation (also known as gushing or squirting) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before an orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be a topic of debate among medical professionals.
www.netdoctor.co.uk explains female ejaculation as follows:
How common is female ejaculation?
The reality is female ejaculation isn’t all that common. Some women do it once in a lifetime, but never again.
The actual percentage of females who ejaculate is uncertain. However, in Masters and Johnson’s famous lab experiments with over 400 women, they did not record anyone who ejaculated at climax.
Nevertheless, the experience of gynaecologists and family planning doctors indicates there is a substantial minority of women who ejaculate regularly.
One of the more convincing assessments is that of Stanislav Kratochvil (1994), who found that about 6 per cent of Czech women reported ejaculating. Agony aunts certainly get many anguished emails from females who are deeply embarrassed by the fact they wet the bed when they come.
Agony aunts, too, get many anguished emails from females who are deeply embarrassed by the fact they wet the bed when they come.
How much fluid is produced?
I have heard claims that highly-sexed women can produce litres of fluid in a single orgasm. This seems very unlikely – after all, where could such an amount be stored in the female body? More realistic is the estimate of Beverley Whipple, American sex guru and co-author of the original G-spot book. At a recent conference, she told me that in most cases, the amount of fluid secreted is usually around ‘half a coffee cupful’.
What effect does it have on women? Continue readingPin It