Large labia often have a negative impact on women’s self-esteem.
“I can’t really remember how old I was when I first noticed how large my labia were, but its been a cause of grief for as long as I can remember. For years I actually thought I was hermaphrodic (spelling?) and this obviously didn’t make my self-esteem any better. I have never told anyone about it, not even my mum or best friend. Due to this, and some other issues of self consciousness, I have never been involved with anyone – that’s right, I’m nineteen and never kissed anyone or had a boyfriend, and probably won’t any time soon. How pathetic is that?
“A few years ago, when I actually did some research and discovered what it was, and learnt about labioplasty, I vowed to have it done as soon as I was eighteen. I turned eighteen late last year and booked in for surgery this year for it. This was all done in secret – I even arranged for the secretary to discharge me afterward so that my parents would never know I’d had an operation.
“I have a congenital disease which means I’ve got surgical (necessary, none of them cosmetic) scars all about the place and also have some other resultant undesirable features, but the labia was the only thing I have never been able to accept about myself, for some reason it is just so humiliating, and so I intended for years to spend my life savings on this surgery.
“By some stroke of luck – good or bad luck I don’t know – I got quite sick the night before I was due to be admitted and had to reschedule the operation, and as I am going away for study I cannot get another spot until very late next year. The books don’t go that far ahead so I don’t have any date set at the moment.
“As of late I’ve been doing some more research about it, and quite appreciated this blog (I think its a blog?) about the subject. However, something I’ve noticed – all the pictures you’ve posted, as far as I can see, are of regular labia. Both sides are the same size. You say men like larger labia, but what about larger /irregular/ labia? Is this asymmetry not a cause for distaste, even subconsciously? Symmetry (of anything) seems to be a large factor in attractiveness. I understand that you’re trying to raise self-esteem, but I’d really appreciate an honest answer, please. Of labia that are not only larger, but are more on the ‘elongated’ side (as in not flat or wide, just long) and which are quite irregular.
“The deposit on the surgery was $1,000 and I will lose this even if I manage to get the rest of the cost back if I cancel. So I am concerned about cancelling and losing that money pointlessly even if I do end up deciding against the procedure. So there’s another question – should I just do it anyway?
“This is an enormous cause of embarrassment but there is something to be said about internet anonymity being a relief. Thanks.”
Since you stated the the women in the pictures below have “normal” size labia, I’ll begin by including some additional photos of women with even larger labia.
The point is labia size doesn’t matter. Of course you may run into immature or superficial men that have negative perspectives, but do you really want to have anything to do with them anyway? One way you are judging your appearance is by what you believe men will think; when the guy you would want to be involved with is a guy that thinks you (and your labia) are beautiful. He would probably be disappointed if he found out you’ve have part of your vulva cut off.
So when you had to postpone that procedure, it was indeed good luck. Even if your labia are as large as those pictured above, or larger, don’t fret over the thousand dollars. And don’t go ahead and do it just because you’ll lose a few bucks. The money won’t mean anything in the end. Labia size, shape, symmetry, coloration are part of what comprises a woman’s physical personality. The man that comes into your life, if he deserves you, will love the way you are. Your body may be important to him, but your personality and world view will be even more so. The pol below reflects what men actually love about female bodies. Note how many of them love women with large labia.
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Reading emotional statements like the one above is what prompts me to respond here on Enlightened Male. Women are male counterparts, they balance the world. Gay or straight, men live in a better world because of them. Few men would want to see any woman suffer such emotional angst over a natural part of her body. But they do suffer. Young girls and women feel shame and are reluctant to let the men they meet see them naked. If they only knew what most men think about large labia. To illustrate the male perspective, I posted the following comments about protruding labia by men.
“When I am giving a woman cunnilingus with big Labia lips, they usually have stronger & more enjoyable orgasm then the ones that have very small lips inside. I like to lick & suck on those nice big lips, but I can not do that with the small ones. And also intercourse is much nicer with nicer big soft lips, they feel very good. The ones with the small lips on the inside do not feel as good & it is much harder for them & me to have a orgasm.”
“I am a normal guy and have a few friends who like large labia, but not as much as I do… I just love them, the bigger the better… my last girlfriend had nice big ones and that made me happy, just looking at them or kissing them was very enjoyable. I don’t have a girlfriend at the moment and I really miss her big lips and I get a bit lonely so sometimes I look at pics on girlie sites and in the end I always end up looking for nice large labia pics, sometimes I find really nice big ones, I love them so much and really enjoy looking at them. So all you ladies with large labia are very lucky, I would guess that most guys would be very impressed and happy with them, so you should be very proud of them and if your boyfriend doesn’t like them perhaps you should find someone new who does love them, I am sure there are millions of guys like me who just love them very much.”
“I love large labia and am extremely attracted to it. Embrace it; don’t be self-conscious. Seeing them in a bikini is a huge turn-on.” Continue reading