I feature this subject from time to time because it isn’t often addressed. Real or imagined, we all have certain misgivings about our bodies. Girls and women are often concerned about the physical appearance of their vaginas. Some women, convinced their labia are too large, believe their vaginas are unsightly and not feminine. Many consider labiaplasty because they want to look like the women in magazines and all over the Internet. What they don’t realize is those idealized women, though attractive in their own way, aren’t nearly so intriguing as a women that has more between her legs than a discreet pubic mound divided by a nondescript crease.
The woman pictured above, for example: with her legs spread this way her labia are nearly touching the floor. I can’t imagine anything more sensuous or compelling. Countless men see it the same way.
Most men would find the woman pictured above to be visually compelling. Those who would be put off are most likely to be superficial men with misguided perceptions. Based on the pol below, many men clearly prefer prominent labia. It doesn’t take much imagination to understand why. Simply put, she has some very captivating temptations.
Women that are suffering self doubts about their bodies should not fall prey to the propaganda published by plastic surgeons that promote labiaplasty. Why would you want to throw away a gift from Mother Nature, not mention your hard-earned money?
The following are testimonials I’ve read online from women :
” I have big labia and have always been ashamed of them, until I met my boyfriend who I have been with almost 2 years! When he used to go down on me I used to put my hand there so he couldn’t look, or turn the lights off but he loves them and says that’s how they should be, honestly he can’t get enough of it, he loves sucking and pulling on them, and says he loves the feeling of them, he has actually said that they are not big enough, So now I have not got to worry about them being too big, but now too small!!!”
“I’m in my 30’s and have always been self-conscious about my labia. Thanks to websites like these, it’s nice to know that there are other ‘normal’ women like me. I’m also very fortunate to have a boyfriend that loves them and makes me love them more, as I used to hate them and was seriously considering labiaplasty.”
“I thought I was a freak because I didn’t look like the diagrams in the Sex Ed. textbooks – I was worried I had broken my vulva as a result of playing with it! It wasn’t until I was in my early 20’s when I began working as a nurse that I realized I was normal after all, and that they all look remarkably different and they are all normal. I happen to have very large labia majora. I usually don’t shave but I thought it would be easier to see everything without hair.”
“I just cannot feel comfortable with my labia. Sex is always awkward as I’m so concerned about what my partner thinks. I have been considering surgery for over 10 years but have never gone through with it. I hope I can learn to live with my labia at some point in time!”
“I’ve met a guy that I really like, and he likes me and wants a relationship, but we haven’t Continue readingPin It
“I can’t really remember how old I was when I first noticed how large my labia were, but its been a cause of grief for as long as I can remember. For years I actually thought I was hermaphrodic (spelling?) and this obviously didn’t make my self-esteem any better. I have never told anyone about it, not even my mum or best friend. Due to this, and some other issues of self consciousness, I have never been involved with anyone – that’s right, I’m nineteen and never kissed anyone or had a boyfriend, and probably won’t any time soon. How pathetic is that?
“A few years ago, when I actually did some research and discovered what it was, and learnt about labioplasty, I vowed to have it done as soon as I was eighteen. I turned eighteen late last year and booked in for surgery this year for it. This was all done in secret – I even arranged for the secretary to discharge me afterward so that my parents would never know I’d had an operation.
“I have a congenital disease which means I’ve got surgical (necessary, none of them cosmetic) scars all about the place and also have some other resultant undesirable features, but the labia was the only thing I have never been able to accept about myself, for some reason it is just so humiliating, and so I intended for years to spend my life savings on this surgery.
“By some stroke of luck – good or bad luck I don’t know – I got quite sick the night before I was due to be admitted and had to reschedule the operation, and as I am going away for study I cannot get another spot until very late next year. The books don’t go that far ahead so I don’t have any date set at the moment.
“As of late I’ve been doing some more research about it, and quite appreciated this blog (I think its a blog?) about the subject. However, something I’ve noticed – all the pictures you’ve posted, as far as I can see, are of regular labia. Both sides are the same size. You say men like larger labia, but what about larger /irregular/ labia? Is this asymmetry not a cause for distaste, even subconsciously? Symmetry (of anything) seems to be a large factor in attractiveness. I understand that you’re trying to raise self-esteem, but I’d really appreciate an honest answer, please. Of labia that are not only larger, but are more on the ‘elongated’ side (as in not flat or wide, just long) and which are quite irregular.
“The deposit on the surgery was $1,000 and I will lose this even if I manage to get the rest of the cost back if I cancel. So I am concerned about cancelling and losing that money pointlessly even if I do end up deciding against the procedure. So there’s another question – should I just do it anyway?
“This is an enormous cause of embarrassment but there is something to be said about internet anonymity being a relief. Thanks.”
Since you stated the the women in the pictures below have “normal” size labia, I’ll begin by including some additional photos of women with even larger labia.
“When I am giving a woman cunnilingus with big Labia lips, they usually have stronger & more enjoyable orgasm then the ones that have very small lips inside. I like to lick & suck on those nice big lips, but I can not do that with the small ones. And also intercourse is much nicer with nicer big soft lips, they feel very good. The ones with the small lips on the inside do not feel as good & it is much harder for them & me to have a orgasm.”
“I am a normal guy and have a few friends who like large labia, but not as much as I do… I just love them, the bigger the better… my last girlfriend had nice big ones and that made me happy, just looking at them or kissing them was very enjoyable. I don’t have a girlfriend at the moment and I really miss her big lips and I get a bit lonely so sometimes I look at pics on girlie sites and in the end I always end up looking for nice large labia pics, sometimes I find really nice big ones, I love them so much and really enjoy looking at them. So all you ladies with large labia are very lucky, I would guess that most guys would be very impressed and happy with them, so you should be very proud of them and if your boyfriend doesn’t like them perhaps you should find someone new who does love them, I am sure there are millions of guys like me who just love them very much.”
“I love large labia and am extremely attracted to it. Embrace it; don’t be self-conscious. Seeing them in a bikini is a huge turn-on.” Continue readingPin It
Many women suffer from a poor self-image when it comes to their bodies. Though breast size seems to be less of an issue these days, there is a little discussed, more intimate issue many woman have with something that’s found between their legs. Protruding or large labia make some women so body conscious they are reluctant to have sex or let their boyfriends see them naked, especially younger women that are dating.
This article is meant to put that notion to rest. Mother Nature schemed up a grand design which was to make us all different, and therefore special to the one we eventually meet and fall in love with. Rest assured the majority of men are immensely turned-on by protruding labia. Don’t believe that? Just check out the pol at the end of this article.
For previous a post on large labia, click here.
Small breasts and protruding labia, some people might think this girl is doomed to a lifetime of emotional trauma. Not by a long shot. Any young man walking the face of the Earth would give his eye teeth to be stranded on a deserted island with her.
Statistical facts on female body image:
~~Only one in 10 women think that there is no shame in having discussions about the female genitals
~~Up to 89% of women do not think their genitals are attractive, sexy or beautiful
~~Almost half of women (47%) believe the vagina is the body part they know least about
~~Only half of women have ever performed a self-exam of their genitals, and one-quarter (24%) has not looked at her vulva in a year or longer
~~Since 2005, Google has reported a “Breakout” increase (more than 5000%) for numerous search terms and phrases related to female genital cosmetic surgery, including “labia surgery”, “labiaplasty”, vaginal rejuvenation”, “vagina surgery cost”, and many more. Note that each search independently increased by more than 5000%.
~~Since 2005, Google has reported a “Breakout” increase for numerous searches related to the notion of a “normal” vulva, including “normal labia minora”, “normal labia pictures”, “normal labia size”, “normal vulva”, and many more. Note that each search independently rose by more than 5000%.
~~In 2008 the medical group Surgicare (UK) saw a threefold increase in labiaplasty over the previous year, and inquiries rose seven fold in three years. Most women asking for the surgery were in their late teens or early 20s, though as young as 10 or 11. In almost all cases, requests came from women with completely healthy vulvas, but seeking more attractive genitals.
~~Women’s genital perceptions are significantly related to their gynecological care perceptions and intentions. (In other words, if a woman has negative perceptions about her Continue readingPin It
Meet Vanessa Scott. Vanessa is a consultant that advises women who, for various reasons, are concerned about their labia size. Through our correspondence, I have come to admire Vanessa for the work she does guiding women in the right direction, not only by her one-on-one consultations, but also through her comprehensive and objective website and her magnificent worldview. I invited Vanessa to write a guest article for Enlightened Male because of our many female visitors here. She was gracious enough to accept my invitation.
By Vanessa Scott, April 6, 2012
There may be nothing more sacred on this Earth than the female vulva. It has the power to rule Kings and grown men will frequently do almost anything for a mere glimpse at one.
No different than the male penis, they come in all shapes and sizes. Some are bigger and some are smaller. Some are symmetrical while others are not. Some have darker pigmentation others lighter pigmentation.
So do men have a preference? Ask any man, and you are likely to get the same answer, “No”. Most real men will simply appreciate their woman the way she is. Larger labia, no problem, he can love that. Smaller labia, that’s perfect as well.
But there can be no doubt that this simple fact has been lost on a growing number of the women around the world. The International Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons reported a 43% increase worldwide in Labia Reduction surgeries, with more than 67,000 performed in 2010.
And this doesn’t take into account the number done by vaginal surgery specialists and gynecologists. The real number is certainly much higher and increasing every year.
So the question becomes, why? Why are women choosing with their own free will to undergo a reduction surgery for their labia?
Roughly four years ago, I worked for one of the premier cosmetic vaginal surgeons in the world. An eye opening experience that I am grateful for. Not long after, I began helping women globally on my site Vaginal-Surgery.info.
Today, tens of thousands of women visit the site each month. Some are just trying to understand their bodies while others have already had surgery. Continue readingPin It
Like snow flakes and roses, like men and their specialized parts, no two women are physically alike, not their smiles, not their hair styles, not the petals between their legs. Like men, women fret over the nuances of their bodies. When it comes to our genitals, many men are convinced their penises are too small, or the wrong color, or it curves too much, or a host of other concerns. Women worry their breasts are too small, or too large, or their butts are too wide. Some women are concerned about their labia; specifically, they’re too large and they protrude.
I have put together this article to give women a male perspective, not just mine but also those who are taking the accompanying pol and those who are leaving comments. Let me say early on that men like you the way your are down there, even more so if things down there are intriguing.
I suppose the perfect scenario is a plump mound, divided by a uniform slit that runs down through the legs, revealing no more than the faintest hit of the inner labia. Granted it’s a nice scenario, but only one, one that might not fire the imagination quite so dramatically as the compelling presence of protruding labia. It seems to me the presence of extended labia gives the vagina a certain character, a personality of sorts.
If the male foreskin is laden with sensitive nerve endings, it stands to reason the female labia have similar characteristics. One would think this is an advantage. From a male’s perspective, there is more to play with, something to toy with with one’s tongue, something to suck. Where does the disadvantage come in considering all of this?
Hardly. Among other things, men are visual creatures. You can hardly imagine the thrill of slipping a woman’s panties down for the first time. He has imagined it frequently from the moment he met you. The first time he sees your pussy, he will be thrilled, immensely turned on, and more than ready to get started using his hands, his tongue and other parts of his body. The physical appearance of your labia are the last of his concerns.
Yes, there may indeed be a few guys that would harbor reservations. These guys have seen Playboy magazine; they know what a pussy is suppose to look like. Well, and I hate to admit it, but a lot of us are jerks or dumb-asses. To prove my point, just look at the commercials on TV during a football game. You know who I’m talking about. So what difference does it make? Could you really get interested in a man this shallow, or even care what he thinks?
I can understand why some women have negative feelings about their protruding or large labia. Men are the same way about their penises … too small, curved too much, too hairy … so we’re all pretty much in the same boat. None of us are perfect, and most of us perceive our “flaws” with exaggerated emotions. But labia, like penises, are like snowflakes … no two are the same. In fact they are part of our physical personalities that make the human race interesting. Therefore, in this post you will see a variety of labia, all of which are normal, all of which would thrill nearly any man or any female lover.
We’re all self-conscious about our bodies to begin with: too short or tall, fat or thin, our complexions are too light or dark or have imperfections, our butts are too flat or too broad … the worries are endless. But the labia are a special part of a special part, a part that women want to share with someone special. So they, like men and their penises, use the Internet and certain magazines to establish what is apparently an ideal look for their genitals. No wonder so many plastic surgeons drive a Mercedes Benz, especially those that do labiaplasty, a procedure, if purely for cosmetic reasons, I hope to discourage you from.
Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex for the first time, I have never let him see my large labia before because I am worried what he might think. They are very large and are dark brown in colour, is this normal? Is this even attractive?
After finding out my b/f uses porn to help him along when I’m not around, I decided to keyword “large labia” on the Internet to see if what he’s looking at looks like me. …Apart from them being teens, which I’m not, I’m 27, all of the girls had small ‘perfect’ looking labia, again, which I don’t have. I already felt self conscious about my labia, both minora and majora are large and hang quite low, they’re pretty symmetrical but there is a lot of them to say the least. I found a website showing all sorts of labia sizes, even larger ones similar to mine.. whilst I think they’re beautiful I still find mine pretty ugly. Added to that I never know what to do with the hair down there, leave it long to hide the big lips, or have it short, neat and tidy but have my horrible lips hanging for all to see. I don’t know. Its odd that I can view other large labia as attractive, some of them even turned me on if I’m honest, but I still think mine are ugly.
I think my vagina lips are not normal. My inner lips are way way bigger then my outer ones! It wasn’t like that when I was little! It really bugs me. I won’t even let my boyfriend touch me there, cause I’m afraid he will think I’m not normal or something. My boyfriend has asked me if I wanted to have sex but I turned him down because of this. Is my vagina normal?
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I’ve read a lot of articles on labia but I still can’t seem to get the thought of my own out of my head. I have large labia that noticeable which I know are normal but still bother me. I think it looks gross in certain underwear and I am very insecure about it. At times I even try to tuck them in so you can see them. I am 16 and started noticing this about a year or so ago. I am not sure if I was always like this or not. I’ve been with this guy for about 8 months and hes been down there with his hands and what not but I am a virgin and I was very skeptical about even letting him preform oral sex on me because of the reaction that he might have thinking it’s disgusting. About a week ago at his house things started to get serious but kept my hands covering my vagina because I was nervous. He was confused at why I would do that and told me he really want to give me oral sex and I really wanted to. I eventually let him and he did not say one thing bout my larger labia. I was very surprised and pleased but couldn’t shake the idea of what he really thought. I still consider surgery when I turn 18 for myself. I just cannot get the thought that I look gross out of my mind. I really need help on what I should do.
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Should you be concerned?
Many of us hold secrets about our bodies that we’re reluctant to share with anyone, yet they haunt us everyday, especially when we look at ourselves in the mirror. Many men think their penis is too small, or curves too much, or has an undesirable shape. For a woman, concerning her most private parts, it’s the size, shape and color of her labia.
And since this site is about body acceptance, the subject is clearly on-topic. My first post on the subject generated lots of interest, so I thought I’d revisit the subject, this time from a different slant.
Fact is, labia are like snowflakes … every one is different. As a girl goes through puberty, her genes deliver Mother Nature’s artistic creativity to various parts of her body: the curve of her hips, her breast size and shape, patterns of hair, the design and size of her labia. She has preconceived notions of what her body should look like, and she compares her body to other girls, all too often believing she comes up short. A little surfing on the Internet and the silent suffering often worsens. All those beautiful, perfect girls! Why does my labia stick out?
She wants to look like the other girls, and if she’s old enough to be sexually active, she worries about what her boyfriend thinks, or will think if she allows him to turn the light on.
“I think my vagina lips are not normal. My inner lips are way way bigger then my outer ones! It wasn’t like that when I was little! It really bugs me. I won’t even let my boyfriend touch me there, cause I’m afraid he will think I’m not normal or something. My boyfriend has asked me if I wanted to have sex but I turned him down because of this. Is my vagina normal?”
“I’ve read a lot of your articles on labia but I still can’t seem to get the thought of my own out of my head. Mine are big and noticeable which I know are normal but still bother me. I think it looks gross in certain underwear and I am very insecure about it. At times I even try to tuck them in so you can see them. I am 16 and started noticing this about a year or so ago. I am not sure if I was always like this or not. I’ve been with this guy for about 8 months and hes been down there with his hands and what not but I am a virgin and I was very skeptical about even letting him preform oral sex on me because of the reaction that he might have thinking it’s disgusting. About a week ago at his house things started to get serious but kept my hands covering my vagina because I was nervous. He was confused at why I would do that and told me he really want to give me oral sex and I really wanted to. I eventually let him and he did not say one thing bout my larger labia. I was very surprised and pleased but couldn’t shake the idea of what he really thought. I still consider surgery when I turn 18 for myself. I just cannot get the thought that I look gross out of my mind. I really need help on what I should do.”
“Being sexually active, I have become more conscious about my vagina. I am very concerned about the physical appearance of my vagina. It’s really embarrassing. There’s extra skin on the left side of my vagina that hangs down, it’s kind of wrinkly, and it’s stretchy. It did not appear out of nowhere, I’ve had it for a long time. Is it normal? or is something bad that I should have removed? Please help me. I’m very confused and embarrassed.”