Social nudity is not for everyone, but only because most people cannot imagine taking their clothes off in a group setting. Many believe social nudity is abnormal, immoral or perverted. Many automatically associate nudity with sex, therefore those who participate in social nudity must be sex addicts, exhibitionist and voyeurs. Of course nothing is further from the truth.
People have negative views about social nudity because they have been taught from an early age that the human body is shameful, that it’s wrong to expose your body to anyone other than your spouse, and some people are reluctant to do even that. They’ve been influenced by their parents, the media, religion and government. Except for the minority that have listened to their instincts, that recognize the human body is a wonderful creation that should be enjoyed and celebrated, most people have developed mindsets that will never allow them to see social nudity as a joyful, enlightening experience.
If you had grown up in a home where your parents had no reservations about walking around the house nude, you would have done the same thing. You would have grown up believing nudity is natural and that there are circumstances where there is no reason to wear clothes. When you noticed your father’s penis was bigger, you would have assumed yours would be too when you are older, just like the rest of the body. When you were old enough to be curious about pubic hair, your mother would have told you it’s part of being an adult. You would have grown up wondering why anyone would think the human body is shameful. You wouldn’t understand why anyone thinks there is something immoral about not wearing clothes.
So the fact is social nudity is indeed for everyone. The only reason so many disagree is because of what they were taught growing up. Children simply are not ashamed of their bodies; they are taught their bodies are shameful. It’s the same doctrine as religion. If you were born and raised in Israel, you will almost certainly believe in the Jewish faith; in the Middle East you will believe in the Muslim faith; in a Catholic household you will believe in the Catholic faith; that is if you believe in any religion at all. In a household that rejects nudity, you will grow up believing social nudity is immoral.
Here a dad is spending time with his daughters. They’ve seen him and their mother nude since their earliest memory. Their nudity is incidental. They are likely a more closely bonded family because all the barriers between them have been removed.
Perhaps, even if you have been raised to believe nudity is immoral, you have a secret desire to find out what social nudity is all about. Perhaps you’re wondering if you are brave enough to try it and are wondering how. The following essay tells us how one lady in California went about it.
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“There is a workshop at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur. They have two areas where clothing is optional — the swimming pool and around the natural hot tubs. I think clothing is optional down on the edge of the ocean, as well.
I grew up in New England, home of the Puritans. Nudity was not something I saw growing up in my family or anywhere else, really. It was not something I was used to.
But I believed that the body should not be an object of shame. I believed there was no reason in particular, other than social convention, that we should have to remain clothed for modesty’s sake. The notion of nudity being non-modest per se never made much sense to me. It’s just convention, and convention can be changed if you are in a group that holds to a different convention.
At Esalen, nudity is perfectly acceptable. But it isn’t required. What I found was that after spending a day in an intense workshop with people, that going to the hot tubs showed me yet another side of people.
When clothes came off, so did any remaining barriers between us. People became more open when their clothes were off. Somehow, they seemed more like themselves. They could say the things they wanted to. They seemed more honest. More friendly and loving. The conversations in the nude were more like conversations that some people seem to need drugs to have. It wasn’t so much that inhibitions were lessened, although they did seem to be, but that it was the kind on inhibitions — not about sex, but about being forthcoming and authentic. As I said, people seemed more like themselves.
I also found my judgments about bodies slipping away. Sure, I noticed the elderly woman was carrying a lot of weight, but it didn’t matter. We weren’t competing on looks. We weren’t competing at all. We were just sharing ourselves openly. It seemed to me that being naked had a lot to do with that. Without our clothes as our false fronts, we were simply ourselves. The symbolic lack of semblance turned into a real openness.
Being nude with other people is a process. At first, your mind will be running crazy. Can I really do this? What will people think? All those self-conscious thoughts.
But after a while, when you see everyone else is nude and no one else is hurting you for it, you start to relax. Then, in the hot water with the beautiful ocean and surrounded by authentic people, you start to really let go of your need to pretend. To act like your clothes are you. You start being able to be yourself.
I would give into the process as best you can, but also trust that these things will happen, whether you are ready for them or not. The nudity itself will almost require that you open up. It almost forces you to feel safe. This probably sounds a little ridiculous, but that was my experience, and the experience of others I spoke with.Pin It
The following comments about small penises are from visitors on a piece I posted in January of 2011, called Beautiful Man, Small Penis … Perspectives and Advantages of a Small penis.
Wow, I’m found a home. Little dick here (5.5/c) and truly a little dick lover. Give me the guys from the “Under 6 Club” every time. I have a major gag reflex so something on the smaller size is perfect for me to provide great service. There’s no such thing as “too small” in my book. Love it when I can put his dick and balls in my mouth at the same time.
Hey Guys I’m 30, small and proud and honestly a bit insecure about my size. I’m from the Netherlands, 6ft1 dark hair and 4.7 inch hard about 1.5 inch soft.
Hello chaps. I am number 354 on page 11 of DYP. Approximately 5.5″ fully erect and maybe 2.5″ in girth. Currently shaved bald tho i dabble with various styles of trimming. Reasonably in shape, whatever that means ! My current girlfriend has no issue with my little cock. As previous men have stated, small penises tend to harden more quickly, stay that way longer too. Plus, it all fits into her mouth very nicely. As you will see if you look at my photos, i’m uncut. This is my preference when looking at other men. This isn’t body-fascism. Just my aesthetic and physical preference. Slowly sliding my sticky foreskin over the tip of my cock feels so good. I find that uncut men tend to precum a lot more than cut men. Another observation is that, tho i have a small penis, i tend to ejaculate a good quantity of semen. I’ve seen men with much larger penises cum in much smaller amounts. Yes, i adore looking at larger and, especially, uncut cocks. But in reality we have what we were given at birth. Embrace the differences but also embrace the hand you were dealt. We are all different. Life would be dull otherwise!
I live in Los Angeles and I have a 4.5“ cut cock. I’m a nice guy nice looking 39 white hairy chested very friendly and grounded. I’m trying to meet a guy who has a small dick and hairy like myself. I find that like speaks to like. My theory is if both guys have small penises you wouldn’t feel so bad about being small. You would both appreciate one another and no judgement.
I have a small penis and was afraid when my girlfriend wanted to see it. Luckily she loves me for me and doesn’t care if its small.
Being small dick minded I missed out, when I was young I was totally in love with a buddy. One day at his house just me and him he was peeing and let me see it, beautiful cock much bigger than my own. As he finished he asked if I wanted to play with it, stupidly I said no only because I feared him seeing my smaller dick. He put it away and never again did I get the chance. Ruined our friendship, he no doubt felt rejected. I have regretted that stupidity for 32 years. I am 6inches. But I felt small. I still have feelings for him but being stupid about size ruined it, I will regret that the rest of my life. I am 47 now, when I see him and his lover I remember being 15 and in love with my best friend. Don’t be ashamed of your size. It haunts you.
Hi I’m 6’4″ and in real good shape n I am a captain at my night school for sports and I have an extremely small dick and I Am a little nervous to show it around anybody even my friends an especially girls.
I’m 52, I walk, I look fairly decent, my cock is 6 inches but not very fat, big balls but that only hurts to make my cock look smaller. I will never feel better about myself though. I feel cheated in a way. Obsessed I would say at my inadequacies. My partner of 15 years is 7 inches and always makes me feel inferior, it is his hobby I guess. It is amazing what that one inch above average does to ones self esteem. For me I’ve always been terrified of being seen naked by people, to be humiliated, to be seen as less than. I’m the top guy in our relationship and sometimes I’m like , “yes yours is bigger but you don’t know what to do with it”….. that is my only retort.
Thanks for this site and your article and to all you guys willing to share your “secret” with everyone, it does help in a way to have a community of like-minded guys…
At the age of 50, I still feel inadequate and inferior, although I should not, or so everyone tells me. My smaller cock – under 6″ hard – makes me feel sexually undesirable, although I am a reasonably good looking, hairy, masculine short white guy. I am a bit Continue readingPin It