David is concerned about his penis size.
I am 23 years old and have a small penis, around 3.5 – 4″ when erect. I had one long-term relationship between the ages of 16 and 19 but haven’t been with a girl since then. I am worried about putting myself out there because of my size. What advice can you give me to help with this anxiety? Thanks.
David, welcome to a world populated by a lot of guys. What a shame so many men find it nearly impossible to enjoy their penises because they are so self-conscious about its size. Every man, big or small, should be able to enjoy one of Mother Nature’s grandest gifts without reservations of this kind. Some men are inhibited not by the size of their penis, but because of the indoctrinations they have suffered from their earliest years. They were taught their penises are dirty or naughty. Who knows which of these anxieties are worse.
I suggest you look at the poll on penis size preference. You’ll find it in this article. Sure, the majority of women prefer a larger size, but better than a third say penis size is not important to them or they prefer smaller penises. That’s the answer to your problem, seeking out the right young woman (or the right man for those looking for a same-sex relationship).
Picture yourself dating a girl. The two of you seem to be going in the right direction. At some point early on, you should bright up the subject. Imagine the two of you are having coffee into the wee hours of the morning, talking about all kinds of things. There should come an opportunity to tell her you would like to say something personal. Tell her you are self-conscious about your penis size, that you fall just below average, that it’s something you don’t want to worry about in a relationship that goes beyond being just friends.
I believe, if you have found the right girl, by bringing this up you will have automatically won a big chunk of her heart. She will be endeared by a man that is brave enough and comfortable enough to talk about his inner emotions. You will discover whether or not she is the right girl. Then, when the two of you first get naked together, you can enjoy your body the way you’re supposed to. Imagine what a relief that would be. On the other hand, if she’s not the right girl, maybe the two of you can still be friends.
Other than that, most of solving the problem is up to you. Suck it up and recognize the fact that we’re not all Charles Atlas. You can either enjoy your body and who you are, or you can consign yourself to a long life of feeling inadequate. Ignore all the size matters tripe that’s all too common on the Internet. And learn more about women, what they like and how to drive them wild by knowing their erogenous zones. Master the myriad ways a guy can satisfy a woman without even using his penis, and then be considered a prize lover.